When an ugly guy is having sex with a girl you fancy…

So you're saying that looks determine the value and dignity of a person? The dude realised his looks are out of his control and relies on his personality (something even good looking people should do). Idk why you care so much about it, my neighbour is my age, smoking hot and lives just 3 houses away from me and her boyfriend visits her and stays over daily during this pandemic (it's obvious what they're doing at night) and I haven't really given it any thought until I saw this post.

 

I agree with @The Cowboy, personality matters far more than looks in a guy (fortunately for most of us ), and this other chap is doing nothing openly wrong. The fact that he's ignoring what others might think about his looks and getting on with attracting, courting and making love with the girl he likes means he's doing exactly what a man should be doing. Furthermore, there's nothing here to say that he's being in any way a dick to you, so why should you care? Indeed even if he was, you should just ignore him and get on with your own life. Don't let other guys rattle you, because they'll sense it and that'll boost their own confidence even further, and girls will also sense it and feel less attraction toward you.

I think you should be less superficial and respect a man for what's on the inside more than the outside - something that's more difficult for someone who's good-looking to do, clearly. It seems you hardly know this guy in the first place, if you get to know him he may well be a great bloke, just with particular extroversion that prompts him to act with a bit of an over-the-top swagger. Would you still hold a grudge against him even then?

There are always other girls out there who are single and looking for love. If this girl does dump her current boyfriend for whatever reason you can make a move on her, if not, get over her and move on.

 

If he drives her back home , she owns him . In fact , they realise she is better looking than him , so she manipulates him .


Looks is almost everything . But for a constant relationship with a woman . Hah , they look for control .


@R92B she is in reach . She don't mind if a better looking guy , if that's you f her . She just looking for available , submissive puppy in the ugly boy .

Constant validation , they are subscribed too with those simps .

 

I'm anti-simp, but I think that's taking it too far lmao. Women do deserve some respect because they are the fairer sex - but it's a good thing for the sake of gender equality. If men didn't give women any special consideration, they'd have no power whatsoever and would basically be walking sex toys for us. They get special consideration; we get strength, power, intelligence and bravery (generally speaking). I'd take that shit over special consideration any day lmao.

 

I have a gut feeling this guy just minds his business and works on his personal development rather than spending time posting random thoughts on this website, man. I don't know. Women can smell losers and winners instinctively. Think Ron Jeremy, that ugly f***.

I spend too much time on this website too.

 

At the end of the day.. she likes him. He is not ugly at all for her. he pushes her buttons the rigth way, like noone is doing rigth now.

Your feelings comes probably because you are jelous of this guy.. just move on to another woman and don't waste time, energy and emotions in a woman that is alredy taken. This is not going to bring nothing positive in your direction.

 

Could be the dude has a truckload of money (the really rich ones often don't flaunt it) and/or is hung like an elephant. For certain women, one or both of those attributes carries a lot more weight than a handsome face or a buff body. The point is though, if you're in any kind of populated area at all, there are other women as hot as that one or hotter out there and some of them may even be available. The sooner you move on from this fixation the sooner you can get into a position for one of them to cross your path.

 

I've felt this way before. It fucking sucks. A lot. However, the world would not work like it does today if everyone felt this way, so there must be a reason no one else has these feelings all the time.

I am fairly certain the biggest contributors to these types of feelings are loneliness and porn addiction.

For now, forget about them. Avoid interacting with them if you can. Do your 90 day reboot on hardmode. Make sure you do it right. Hold yourself to a high standard. Make it your primary life goal for the next 90 days.

Secondly, hang out with your friends. A lot. If you don't have friends, start making some. Sign up for group activities or sports. Join a club where you can talk to people. See if people at work are doing shit. I have been very lucky to have had 2 girlfriends, multiple FWBs, and plenty of one night stands in the three years since I began porn addiction recovery. While it is extremely important to rewire through positive sexual encounters after your reboot (to both calm your urges and make roadblocks in your mind against porn addiction), I can say with 100% certainty that having friends to chat with frequently, screw around with, and just feel good around is much more effective at helping you stay positive and not get sex/relationship FOMO. My girlfriend right now is honest to god Instagram hot and we get eachother off every weekend, but due to my summer work schedule and my living situation I haven't been able to see my friends, and I can tell I feel much more interested in and thinking about other girls. It literally makes me sick, and I know it's because I haven't been with my friends in a while. Humans are social, we're meant to have buddies we see all the time. When you're lonely your brain longs for the greatest source of anti-loneliness, which is whatever girl you're obsessed with at the moment, when in reality you just need to bust balls with the bros. Similarly when you're starving, you'll think about the most satiating dish, like fried chicken or a steak, when really what you need is some bread and broccoli.

For this particular situation, you're just gonna have to take the L. Forget about them, avoid them completely with as little effort as possible, and eventually you'll forget (yes you will). Do your reboot, and find some friends to hang with. You'll feel much better IMMEDIATELY. I've been where you are right now and IT DOES GET BETTER.

 

"Women are the fairer sex" is for sure a myth. I think people vastly underestimate the role physical attraction plays for women. You see men with "ugly" women as well. To some extent beauty is in the eye of the beholder. To say only personality matters to women is wrong.

 

They could have high chemistry a girl can ignore looks too if the chemistry she has with the guy is really high.

You can't work your way through chemistry with someone you have it or you don't

 

well I have spent 23 years of my life like that . hahaha its like I am being cheated on. maybe its just because my mind assign a very high value to pretty girls . but its very depressing and the girl seems so pathetic to me after that .Like you could have get any guy than why this ugly motherfucka??

 

I had a relationship with a woman for 2 years and we had regularly sex, but in the end she dumped me for another like it was nothing...

 

Just know that those relationships are probably not what they seem. Hey may have a tone of money or just that confidence where it drives a woman wild.

One of my buddies was like that especially at parties and I admit I envied him to a mind fuck point. One night we were playing cards and he started making out with this gal that was half drunk. What keeps going threw my mind was that, was I not attractive enough, not social enough, or have the looks?

I was not there to really make out or get a girl in bed, but I just wondered..... If I was sitting next to her or talked to her more, made her laugh, would that of changed the whole deal? She was really really sketchy though since she said she was in a "open" relationship. That night just sits in my mind and I was in a depressive mood for the rest.


Honestly bro. I'd just let it pass, even if she does tease you. Maybe you can pray for her to notice you more and realize what you have more then him. Praying is always a good start and then letting go. Could be bad, could be good. Especially to not get attached to a Woman that is dating a "rat" looking fella.

 

So she probably had many guys in her life and will never be truly attached to anyone because of it?

 

As a girl I can assure you at least for me "personality" is not more important than looks

 

You sound jelous and overly dramatic (almost entitled, but I hate this word). The guy must have something that you don't have, so don't act insecure by trying to belittle him, he won and you have lost. Get over it.

 

This doesn't have to be necessarily the case. Sometimes a man is at the right place and the right time to become a romantic partner of a woman even when he has less quality then other man.

 

Jealousy: the thread

 

Dude, try to focus your energy on getting a girlfriend you like. People have different preferences, we don't always understand.