When did you guys start to develop more confidence?

Never lost my confidence to begin with.

 

I think it just depends on confidence about what exactly. I don't think just a number of days with no PMO is automatically going to trigger it, there may be age and psychological factors that go deeper.

I mean overall yeah if you stick with it a while you'll feel a little bit more confident across the board. But that doesn't mean a guy is immune to rejection from girls or completely undeterred by obstacles in their education and professional life.

Even if you might get more confident after X number of days or Joe Schmoe online after Y number of days you're different people. The only way to know yours is to try it out - and it doesn't hurt to work on yourself in other ways as well.

 

I never exactly lost any confidence when I relapsed or even during rebooting; however, after about 3-4 days I started to feel slightly better and them after 7 days I got a taste of what could be possible if I continued no PMO.

 

i guess when i got better at keeping some good nofap streaks under my belt an focused on the things im good at

 

Part of my journey has been taking better care of myself. I found I could avoid a relapse easier if I kept hydrated, was on a regular sleep schedule, those sort of things. As I took better care of myself I gained confidence.

 

confidence on what? there are a lot of confidence, confidence of your ability,job,public speaking,social,how you look,etc

 

Generally, I'm not too sure WHEN it clicked, but i think it just has to do with me realizing that regardless of what people think of me, good or bad, its all inaccurate anyways. That belief started forming mostly after high school. We just assign words that feel right to things. People call me confident and determined, but its like...what is that? Its just a word assigned to what people perceive me as, and that can be wildly different. One person's confident friend that speaks their mind in a respectful manner is another person's asshole who can't keep their mouth shut. I think a lot of confidence is in preparation and ability, so its always gonna vary. In other words, if you suck at something and there's a good chance you're gonna fail its normal to not be confident. The guy who's confident with women might not be confident in a philosophical debate for example. Its normal to not feel confident if the past has shown you reasons not to be. The key to working on it is taking small steps to believe in yourself more by taking small successful actions. Every success proves that you can get through discomfort and eventually work your way through difficult situations. After a while of just going for it and realizing that failure isn't the end, it becomes a bit easier to believe in yourself even when the odds are not looking good.

 

I will tell you what i learned so far
Around day 21 i see the real me. The man who is very insecure and seriously need ao much work to improve. Then on day 24 i faped and i losted that man i see on day 21. And then onwards i am not insecure i have porn to act like a shield infront of my emotions. And for last 66 days i am fapping and never see that insecured man again till now.