When do the urges start decreasing ?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Musta, Mar 14, 2015.

  1. Musta

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    Day 4 since I last edged
    Urges are frequent and strong for me at the moment. I have hardly made it through yesterday!
    So do urges become less effective and frequent after a weak maybe ?? any experienced fapstronaut can help out ?
    Thanks in advance ;)
     
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  2. lifeistooshort

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    They do go down, but over time. I still every now and then have an urge, but they are quickly squelched by habit. For me, my flat-line was around day 8 or 10 (I don't exactly remember)and then u have no drive or nothing. After that they come and go less frequently. BTW edging is FAAAARR worse then actually orgasming. Go research it on yourbrainonporn.com or look in the addictions. Also prep yourself for the withdrawals. Stay strong buddy!
     
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  3. willem20

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    Stop fantasizing about sex. It helps. A lot. Mastering your thoughts is impossible, but by practicing meditation daily it gradually becomes easier.
     
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  4. Musta

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    Yes edging is totally worse than orgasming . Instead of achieving orgasm and ending it, you train your brain to be bathing in chemicals for hours ... my brain really gets tired the whole day
     
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  5. Musta

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    I'm working on that , thanks :)
     
  6. Ics2000

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    The urges do go, but obviously different for each of us. You will however feel awesome once they subside and your mind and brain feel much more free - look forward to it!
     
  7. Musta

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    I'm in day 3 again too but I'm feeling totally free this time . Probably because I've been busy the whole day . No evidence of any urge :) I feel I can keep up for months :D
     
  8. OurLiP

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    I'm 18 days in so far, and i almost never get any urges anymore. They'll go away by around day 10, and then you'll remain in the same state for a while (regarding urges).
     
  9. mijereah

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    Your reboot sounds very easy
     
  10. Andrew0268

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    For me it was about 6-8 days. Since that it's been pretty clear sailing.

    But I also do a lot of work on being aware of my emotions, meditating, yoga, other exercise, good sleep, and doing things with friends. This has helped me so much more than just shutting off the PC.
     
  11. Musta

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    lol , seems like I was wrong about the " I feel I can keep up for months " part
    today is really harder than yesterday , but I've had a cold shower and I'm stable now . I was really really close to relapsing but I'm glad I didn't :) my brain is such a douche
     
  12. smusa700

    smusa700 New Fapstronaut

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    I will be replying everyday

    i would be replying everyday so i will gain a little support from your success. starting on 20th march, 2015. For over three years i have never take more than two weeks without a faping. It affects my performance and i hate it more than anything but i could not stop. Let me make a progress by joining you brother. Till Friday
     
  13. Musta

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    Awesome lets do this brother :)
    As for today , it was hell !! day 5 is even worst than day 4 ... I'm not sure I can keep up . I think I gotta stay focused till I reach the flatline
     
  14. Ankur Sharma

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    i have completed 24 days, day 19th was very tough for me when i had almost given up. but now i dont feel any urge, there is tough only in the morning, when i used to relapse every time, but that is all under my control now.

    I also feel that urges depends on other factors - how happy you are, how tired you are
    in my case when i used to feel sad/lonely or even happy but tired, my mind used to look for things to boost me up, and the only thing it could find out was PMO.

    our mind is like a stubborn kid who obstinate, if you will fulfill his desires he calms down, but soon again he comes back with more, and this time even more confident that his demands will be fulfilled, again you fulfill his desires he again calms down, but soon again he comes back, each time with bigger demands and getting more and more strong-willed...what you would have done is, the very first time you should have said NO
    please apologize for my english.
    hope this helps.
     
  15. smusa700

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    Hi Musta,

    Today i have spent over 80% of my time on PC but i have been feeling remarkably OK with my urges. I would like to share my hypothesis with you which is based on the human behaviour wall street have been using to make lot of money. The system is (3)>9)>(27(18))>(81(54))

    explanation:

    1. If you are able to abstain from PMO for 3 days then your further abstinence would be less difficult from day 4 up to day 9 when you will re-experience another force of desire similar to what you have experienced earlier on day 3.

    2. On day 9 of your exercise or between day 7-9 and may be up to 11 you would experience extreme urges mostly more than what you have experienced earlier on day 3 of your exercise.

    3. When you are brave enough to head up all those urges between they 7 up to eleven then you are going to be having normal flow of hormones until between day 25 and up to 27. Your earlier success of day 9 and 3 would make you be even more negligent with your focus which could lead you out of the right way. The urges on 27 would not be as hard as it was on 3 and 9 but recklessness in the form of losing focus could be a stumbling block

    4. Days around day 18 before day 27 could be a little bit challenging.

    5. After 27 then you are on a big run because unless you are reckless with your focus there is no reason to get back. Remember only recklessness could turn you back to PMO and it involves engaging in explicit contents or speaking words such as f**k or looking too much into half naked women walking around your office or town. Unless you are reckless with your focus there is no reason not to reach day 81 where sky is the limit.

    things that take our focus away involve engaging in too much entertainment to the tune of losing our head, not facing our fears and doing the right thing.

    Remember the moment you lose focus you would also be losing your momentum and that means going back to MPO We don't have to play with our focus.

    Till i head up Tomorrow.
     
  16. Musta

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    thanks brother and congratulations for the 25 days :)
     
  17. Musta

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    Really nice hypothesis , and mostly true . I have read posts of fapstronaut experiencing urges and flatlines close to what you have mentioned . So let's try and make it to day 9 , then see how far we can go ! Stay focused , your day 3 is at the door .
     
  18. Surrender

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    For me, I had a huge decline in urges on something like day 10. Now its pretty easy.

    Ive tried before just quitting PMO, and not MO.
    This time Ive just gone without anything, no edging, no P, no M. No touching down there at all.
    For me its 1 million times easier this time, when I just stopped everything.

    Good luck!
     
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  19. Musta

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    Thanks mate . I will try to reach day 10 again but without any kind of P or edging this time .
     
  20. smusa700

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    i am glad to say i have passed my 2 days with less challenges despite my over exposure to pc in a lonely home office. I would like to share my secret plan at one time during the day; it was around mid afternoon when i decided and almost committed to browse some p and never show up in this forum again. This should be normal to every addict but keeping secrets like this is what could make us vulnerable to further suggestion that would ultimately make us lose our focus.

    the mind of an addict is weak even to most foolish suggestion regarding the object of his obsession.
     

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