When Do You Stop Objectifying Women?

I tend to objectify every single women I see. They will know our intentions by the way we are seeing them. Some women gives disgusted look and some women just ignore. Either way we are not going to get any benefit by that.

I think it's not about time. I once went on 112 days without pmo but still my way objectifying women doesn't go away. It was actually increased in my case. So I think it's all about our mentality. If you want to stop this shit today then you can do that. I know it is easier said than done. But that's all i am saying.

I think I don't have the courage to talk to them or speak my heart to them or too afraid to even say hello to them, that's why I am doing this cowardly thing. That's why it is very difficult to get friends of opposite gender.

 

It might be hard at first but try to see every person, women too, as humans and not as a piece of meat. Look at them in the face, no matter how hard it's to resist looking at their body. Same goes even if they don't see you directly, just straight up look somewhere else and only acknowledge their presence that they are there, nothing else. Your online nofap behavior must continue on into the real life. If you just lust over women in real life, then all the principles of nofap have gone in vein. You're doing nofap to improve yourself and not to impress the others. All the other things will flow naturally once you do so.

 

You can’t talk to them BECAUSE you only see them as sex objects.
That is like a gold digger complaining that she only sees men as an ATM machine and if only she could talk to a man she wouldn’t have this problem. Expect her problem is that she is not talking to every day regular men, she’s only interested in billionaires. How about the women you’re not attracted to? The grandmas? The obese? Do you objectify them? Probably not. Well, those attractive women you’re doing it to are sisters, daughters, and moms as well. Just regular people that you happen to find attractive. Nothing wrong with finding people atttractive but leave it at that. What good is objectification? Is it causing you to go on dates? Is it making you a better man?

 

Objectification and not doing so has to do with depth, not length (of time). (See my post here for context) Basically because depth has to do with maturity, it is not an automatic function of chronological time or age.

You may want to stop and consider that you are also objectifying yourself. After all, if your self image is tied in with your visual appearance, isn’t that a visual objectification?

There are many different ways to objectifying people and things. I even think thinking of so-and-so as a smart person because say they are a doctor or lawyer may be objectification. The fact that they did all that study and obtained a degree and license is indicative of their hard work, intelligence is not the primary attribute since there are plenty of both professions who are not the best at what they do. Whether it’s sexual or intellectual objectification, you are associating a quality with an object. This is just not an accurate way to understand the world.

 

Look them in the eye, smile and say hello, nod, or start up a conversation, it will help you view them as a person and it will also help with you being more social.

 

That will pass as you work through rebooting.

 

As beautiful as a lady might be, she's not a work of art, she’s human like you. She eats, sleeps, goes to the bathroom, sweats, cries, laughs, gets sick, bleeds, grows old, dies, etc.

Honestly I’d say guys are closer to objects than ladies are, since their moods are generally more stable. You can be on good terms with a lady one minute, then she can be mad at you the next, then on good terms with you again the minute after that. Ladies are very present, very dynamic, very alive.

There’s so much pleasure you can experience by just talking to ladies rather than jacking off to photos and videos of them. Orgasms are nice, but they’re temporary, and our hunger for them is bottomless. You’ll probably forget every jacking session you’ll ever have, but connecting emotionally with ladies and making memories with them is priceless. Masturbating is nowhere near as satisfying.

 

I have used to instantly think like you when seeing woman, now im fine.

It will be lots or urges in the beginning. Think it as a "monster that is living inside you is arguing, wanting more of it". You will not give him the ears, will you?

 

When you realize how truly pathetic you are, that's when you stop objectifying women.

 

If you really want to know how to stop, look at how you think, ever bit of it. There can be psychological objectification too, thoughts like "women are like this", a statement that says they think or act a certain way without qualification is not only a generalization but also an objectification, because it's saying they are fixed in their mental process and behavior as if they are an object. Psychological objectification would include emotional objectification. But the reality is everyone is different.

I think if we look at it in detail, we do that with people in different ways all the time. I'm sorry to say if you only want to stop doing it so you can have a nice love life it will ultimately not work, or not be thorough. If the PMO habit runs deep, which is probably why anyone has come to this forum then your effort at changing your thinking has to go deep as well and not just be limited to sexual objectification only.

 

"Everyone aeound you is in pain. Everyone around you needs to be loved."

Repeat those sentences and think about what they mean, and see if you can still fantasize and entertain yourself with looks of women. Its selfish. I know its hard to stop these habits. But its still selfish to do it, and to not care about what those women are going through, and what they really want in life.
again.

"Everyone aeound you is in pain. Everyone around you needs to be loved."