When would you say someone is ready to date during a reboot?

Traditionally, and with other addictions it is suggested people wait a year. Since we don't necessarily know when we are rebooted other than a day count goal, and that can go anywhere from 90 days to an indefinite period over a year, I thought it may be helpful if people shared their thoughts on qualities and conditions that they'd think would be needed. Of course, by dating here I don't mean just getting lucky. With people with drugs and alcohol problems the idea is not to mess up their chemical abstinence sobriety and being sober in life in general. With PMO of course it is more directly related and the relationship with the addiction and the person is different.

I think there are a lot of facets to this. For example, does the love interest have any addictive tendencies themselves? How well do they understand addiction in general and sexual addiction, or even PMO in particular? How understanding are they in general? What are you and they looking for in a relationship and in the dating process?

But also, what do you personally look for?

 

Thanks @p1n1983. I want to go back to the work in progress idea though, say someone progressing but not fully recovered/rebooted. After all, how many people can say they are fully happy even if they're an 8 or 9 in this scheme?

To me this can be a matter of the specific interest and what you value in life too though. After all even really happy people probably are happy over different things and interested in different things, so I take it as a kind of alignment as much as anything. At the same time, I think we can also name some general things that may be relevant to most who are interested in a relationship, not so much interest as what is valued in a relationship. On this site people might say honesty and transparency for fairly obvious reasons, empathy and compassion etc so I guess the question being what are some universal things people think are needed and would be relevant regardless of interest, station in life etc.?

 

That's why I qualified it as universal things. Just because I'm asking the question it doesn't mean I'm looking for people to tell me or anyone else how to be, which is different from what we think in the first place. The person replying is prompted to think about not just their perspective but what this discussion is calling for, though of course it can be overlooked. If someone comes up with something I don't agree with I might question that, they may be challenged on the idea on some level without it being personal - something they might end up thinking about but I'd just be asking questions like why they want that or care about that.

Also, it's just what we participate on a forum for. If none of us care what other people think then why have any kind of discussion at all?