Where do you meet girls?

I just recently got onto Tinder. I waited till I got my 90 days in. I am in no way looking for easy action. I just want to chat with women & if they are normal I will consider meeting up with them. So far I have chatted with a very lovely lady thats my age. It is 100% civil chatting. I quite enjoy it so far.

 

Omg, I'm asking the exact same question for boys. If only there was a cosmic bond between every people with same tastes.

 

When I was in college, I met most girls at the school library. I met all of my romantic partners from college at the library.

Outside of school, its much more difficult. I met my girlfriend through okcupid, but I don't recommend using dating sites unless you've done a 90 day reboot.
I've met lots of women on public transit. When you commute via bus or train you often see the same faces regularly, which makes it a lot easier to approach.

I think it really depends on what stage of your life you're in. Choose a public location appropriate to your age that you can go to regularly, like a coffeeshop or library. As you spend more time there, you'll naturally get to know the staff and regulars, and become more comfortable with the area, making it easier to approach people.

MeetUp.com (not really a dating site) is a great way to find hobby groups.

 

I'm assuming this to mean, where to meet women that you can have sex with. Correct me if I'm wrong.

In college, I met them at parties.

In my adult life, I met them at work.

After my divorce, I met them on Plenty of Fish and Match.

 

Haha, that would be amazing!
I think it is. sort of. Its called music, gym, running, cars, travel etc.

I know this isn't exactly what you mean but I don't think we can come any closer in reality than this.
BUt to answer the true question. That would be absolutely great and it would probably be a whole lot easier.
But I think people want us to chase our dreams and along that way meet someone or friends.

 

its not hard dude just talk to every girl you find atractive
and if you feel you are ruining it by being insecure about it
check some self development videos, i'll recomend the 21 convention on youtube GOOD LOCK AND PEACE!

 

Its not cosmic, but the tech industry has been working on this.

There's a mobile app called Highlight which will introduce you to people nearby with similar interests.

Like you're at the grocery store and your phone sends you message that says something like "Tim, who also likes Harry Potter, is nearby!" Then you message him on Highlight and say "hey, meet me in aisle 3 and we can geek out about Harry Potter!" Then you meet him in aisle 3 and he may be your new best friend! Or he may be a big jerk, but the app makes the introduction and gives you a topic you're both interested in to get the conversation going.

 

He, makes me kinda regret I gave up my smartphone. Now I guess I just have to work on my confidence That sounds so awesome though. Oh, the possibilities. The only concern would be that there of course would be a lot of jerks in this kind of stuff. Like everything that proposes people to meet I guess. But that would be so helpful. Personally I love really random and varied stuff but I don't look like I love the stuff I love. It's weird to say but like, when you look at me you don't guess that I'm as much into certain types of music or art forms than the handsome hipsters I see when I look in class. Size and weight aren't helpful too. That's why I'm talking about cosmic bond, because physical appearance would matter less... You love Bach, I love Bach, we both don't look like we love Bach, but let's get married!

Yeah definitely I agree, but if it was cosmic, social anxiety would be less of an issue for me X) That's why the Internet is amazing. But try to talk to me in real life. I look like a stray cat. I eat my own words, blush, look at you like you're a pornstar. I can't help it. I love the Internet because it's so random and shows you that you're never alone, even though you're still unique. You don't have to force yourself to be yourself. It's easy to talk and to be understood. There's no body language. Only real language counts. The other day, by clicking on a random tumblr blog, I discovered that the blog's owner is a really hot chick, that attend the same university than me, in the same bachelor, in the same year. Basically she could have been in my class but our last names are too far away. And I discovered this because she's a hardcore CocoRosie fan. How high were the odds that such things happen?

But back to OP's question, I wonder too. Besides the Internet, college and work, where and how to meet people? Especially when you're sickly shy and deeply self-aware.

 

Hey j__s!
I don't know too much about you so I don't know if this is good advice for you be here goes:

Do things you find interesting, (for example if you like animals volunteer at an animal shelter) I can guarantee that there will be other women/girls that will be doing that same thing. Meeting them is easy because you have a shared interest, you can strike up conversation really easily (for my previous example "hey, what's your favourite animal?") and then it goes from there. You will need to get out of your comfort zone and I know that can be tough, but it will be worth it trust me!

Real world example:
I love to play hockey so I joined a co-ed team at my university. Met a beautiful charming girl there, and she was easy to talk to because we both loved hockey. I invited her out to coffee and things went from there...

Even if my advice wasn't helpful Good luck finding a good girl!

 

I don't wanna meet a girl online... Number I'm kinda old school (even though I am young and I like technology)

 

while you are walking on the street you can approach every women you like, just say hi to them.

 

I think the basic tenets of being able to get a girl's digits or email are:

1) Don't be needy
2) Be conversational

Number 1 is very important. I would also second any 90 day fapstinence if you should find yourself becoming too clingy in conversation. (I speak from experience on this point).

Abstinance does wonders for being able to approach women, many of the other fapstronauts, (myself included) have noticed a distinct change in the way women interact with them now that they're not PMO-ing. Women are the ones trying to keep conversations going now.

I've been crushing on a girl who works at local supermarket. She seems happy to see me and eager to converse. I got her name the last time I was there, because I was sly: "Oh how do you pronounce your name [on your nametag]..." and then introduced myself.

I never liked online dating myself. I wouldn't recommend it. I prefer striking up a conversation with someone who either a) lives nearby, like 15 to 20 miles at most. b) is a member of a group you regularly go to.

In these scenarios there's a greater likelihood that you're going to see this person on a fairly regular basis. This helps in building famaliarity.

If you're online you could be shopping for a girl who lives 30 - 40 miles out, and in that case you're going to have to expend a lot of energy just to be able to see each other.

As for where to meet girls -- where do you want to meet them? The Gym isn't a bad place. I think the key is not to act like you're picking them up. This is critical. In my opinion, using a pickup line is the same thing as acting needy. Women hear a lot of lame pickup lines at these places (gyms, bars, etc). If guys had to suffer through the same thing, they'd say the same thing about not wanting to be picked up at the gym.

However, they find it refreshing to have a real conversation. So find a way to start one that expresses genuine conversation, and then ask her out for a drink.

Good luck, God Bless

 

I just want to give my personal opinion, but if you want to work on talking with real women DO NOT use a a dating site or any other technology based way. You can be as smooth as you want over the web, where you can think endlessly about what you'll say and you can even edit your message before you send making sure its perfect and will get the job done. But the truth is that doesn't happen in real life. You have to think on your toes and learn to go with the flow.

My suggestion is to talk to regular women you see wherever you might be. Whether you find them attractive or not you can still talk to them. Even if you have no interest in them whatsoever, it is still helping you build your social skills, and our will also make a lot of really strong female friends in the process.

Main points:
Dont use the internet to meet girls
Only talk to women in person
Talk to every woman you get the chance to

A lion doesn't turn away from a gazelle because the lion thinks he's faster than it, it kills that gazelle just the same.

 

I'm only in my first week and I noticed this. Usually I find it quite difficult to keep a conversation going with a girl but now it's pretty easy. Wow.

 

One thing I've already been noticing is, how sophisticated you Post-PMO's, NoFappers, PMO-in-therapies really are. Taking it to the extreme and stereotyping you all infukingcluding me, some square people would go as far as to call us sick sex addicts and such, denying logic and basic fundamental knowledge.

But reading y'all's comments would change anyone's perception, I believe. Conscious, courage, kind and extremely helping towards each other. Just incredible. Big thumps up for that.


As for where I meet women? Anywhere really. When you meet someone, it sometimes is the weirdest places you'll connect with somebody.

 

j_s, I tried it for awhile for a couple weeks but I never really took it that seriously and never met anyone. I've been considering reinstalling it now I've rebooted but it requires facebook, and I've deleted my facebook.
I could make a invisible/no friends fb account, but I haven't gotten around to it.

 

That sounds nice, in theory, if only it would be so easy in reality. I try to talk to women at work and I always mess up, but overall, there is nothing to really talk about except the weather. I am 32 and I have never had a date and the first and probably the last first kiss was from my grandmother.