Who am I and why am I here?

Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?

 

Hello. We're glad you're here. And I will answer who you are a bit later.

More and more people realize how dangerous this addiction is. Emotionally, you can't develop a normal relationship with a woman, because you already have a strong relationship with PMO. Also any addiction destroys you as a social being, but PMO beats all the other addictions, because it affects your capacity to form bonds with women and at the same time you feel ashamed to ask for help, because it's a sexual addiction, and you think the others will consider you a loser and a freak. And physically you can't have a proper erection.

It's never too early or too late to get rid of it. Porn is something immoral created by immoral beings and allowed by people who have no respect, no shame and no mercy for the hearts and minds of teenagers and young people. Whenever you suggest banning porn, 99% of the people will yell it's not democratic. Then what's democratic? To be aware of our times' worst poison and yet let it thrive and really ruin what nature has been working at for billions of years?

And now back to your question 'Who am I?' You are not only an intelligent person, but also someone who has set higher standards for himself. You want to do something valuable with your time, energy and imagination. You are intelligent because you have analysed yourself and the dangers of your addiction.

Now what you might do to improve your situation. Don't try to be an alpha male. Most alpha males I know are bullies who intimidate people who are already easy to intimidate. You are not a winner if you scare a dozen 10-year-old kids. A real alpha male is respectful and kind, but hard to trick or cheat on. So I suggest you should read, study, learn how to dance, learn how to fight, swim, climb mountains, play an instrument. Knowing how to dance with a girl and how to fight will give you a boost in your confidence as a man. Never insist on being friends with anybody. People who have real qualities and skills don't need to beg for friendship and social life. It's always the others who want them as buddies. The same goes for leaders. Never try to dominate other people. If you are outspoken, calm, always smiling and good at what you do. other people will follow your ideas and advice naturally.

Good life is not about conquering and being aggressive, but about being needed by the others. And you are needed only when you have real qualities and skills.

 

Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips which may help you along your journey.

I would suggest joining the group Christian Fapstronauts who will encourage you through prayer and scripture.

 

Very good plan.
My advice is to get busy and have the mentality that this time will be different and you will not relapse.
Keeping God in mind is great! I want to have a better relationship with God but I’ve been having difficulty.
I recommend also doing regular exercise. Maybe, start going to a gym. Even if you can’t do much, it still helps.
But really, you need to have committment and a strong desire to never go back to porn, otherwise you won’t be able to quit and you’ll keep relapsing.

PS: are you from Germany?