Who were you taught to be? How did you learn this?

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by CerealKiller, Aug 6, 2016.

  1. CerealKiller

    CerealKiller Fapstronaut

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    Hello, everyone!

    I am 2nd year Psychology student and I my dream career is to help mentor young men and women about their identities and helping to break down the self-destructive ones. Like many here, I have struggled with PMO, brought on by my own life experiences, but it has shown me how the world around us encourages this dangerous behaviour. I have a little brother heading into his early teens and all I want to do is grab him and beg that he never ever engage in porn, or other destructive behaviours. But i know that that might just create curiosity, or alienation from others should he resist.
    So I really want to get some anecdotal experience from members of NoFap.

    I am interested in people's journey to NoFap, and what happened in your life that took you down this path?
    How were you taught to view the opposite sex?
    How has PMO changed you as a person and when did this habit start and why?
    What is the most difficult part about giving up PMO?
    What advice would you give to your younger self?
    What advice would you give to others?
    And please add anything you think would be worth noting...

    There is this mindset lately that men are rapists and objectify women and have privileges over women etc etc. While I think there is a bit of truth to this I don't think the story is that simple. For example, young girls see sexualize women in all forms of media and so are influenced to perhaps behave that way themselves, and young men see these images and are told that that is what women are and porn is how sex is.
    So the sexism women face in being told how to be attractive is actually ALSO sexist towards men because it is assumed that pornified girls are what we like. How can anyone win in this scenario? I want to help EVERYONE learn to treat each other better and have a greater understanding of the struggles we ALL face, be they similar or different.

    Would greatly appreciate peoples' responses. The more the merrier.

    I wish you all the best of luck with your journey.
    If anyone needs to talk privately feel from to inbox me, I could always use the experience! haha
     
  2. Flossy Carter

    Flossy Carter Fapstronaut

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    My life just straight up went to hell and feeling no emotions what so ever and being cold all the time
    I was thought that I look at women in a respectful manner and lower my gaze If i see a naked woman
    PMO ruined my life and I beg anyone one below the age of 12 to never even take a sneak peek at porn.
    It started when I was 11 when I had my own PC (I regret begging my father for a pc every since) and there was an program that allows you to view funny pictures and things like that when All of a sudden, a naked picture of a woman was in my inbox. I was very confused to what I've been exposed to and ever since then, my friend told me about a website that has free HD porn.
    I guess you can say the withdrawal. Dopamine withdrawal is no joke if you're a heavy Masturbator but luckily, I've only watched porn for 7 years and not 20 years.
    Simple. Throw the computer out the window :p and learn to say no when asked about something you don't feel comfortable doing or saying.
    N.E.V.E.R E.V.E.R GO DOWN THIS DARK PATH THAT LEADS TO EVEN MORE UNIMAGINABLE DARK PLACES

    I hope others can share here their experiences and let us know about it and maybe learn from it.
    Thank you CerealKiller for this thread
     
  3. himmelstoss

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    I remember thinking that my presence was somehow offensive to women, and that women didn't care about looks (the hot guys were tricking them or some crap.). When I started doing MMA my dad was like "you don't want to be like those guys in the gym, your clothes won't fit." I can't explain how porn affected me except that I felt more awkward then than I do now. Oh, and there was this Egyptian girl I rejected because she wasn't quite hot enough (she was better looking than any of the girls I've dated, with the possible exception of that Chinese girl I met in Berkeley.). I hope it didn't get to her and that she's doing alright.

    I regret not playing a sport in high school to this day. Also, I did manage to find a handful of women who liked me (or at least we're willing to hear me out) probably because of the pics I use for online dating.
     
  4. himmelstoss

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    I remember thinking that my presence was somehow offensive to women, and that women didn't care about looks (the hot guys were tricking them or some crap.). When I started doing MMA my dad was like "you don't want to be like those guys in the gym, your clothes won't fit." I can't explain how porn affected me except that I felt more awkward then than I do now. Oh, and there was this Egyptian girl I rejected because she wasn't quite hot enough (she was better looking than any of the girls I've dated, with the possible exception of that Chinese girl I met in Berkeley.). I hope it didn't get to her and that she's doing alright.

    I regret not playing a sport in high school to this day. Also, I did manage to find a handful of women who liked me (or at least we're willing to hear me out) probably because of the pics I use for online dating.
     

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