Who's up for a JULY challenge?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Kristian, Jun 30, 2015.

  1. Real_OGH

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    "90 day streak". I wish one day I will reach 90 days as well :(
     
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  2. writer239

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    You can do it! We both can and will! It's not going to be easy or fun all the time, but you really only need to make it to the two week mark. After that, you'll flatline and you won't have any sexual desire for awhile which will make it a lot easier not to fap because you won't want to fap. It sounds more difficult than it is, but it's not, not if you're really committed and want to do this. You just have to take it day by day. There is no "secret rule or plan" to nofap success because everyone is different and every day that passes is different than the last. We need to start adapting our plans daily, as the need arises, rather than just sticking to one firm plan that might not always work. This is the only way that we can beat this addiction.
     
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  3. Real_OGH

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    @writer239 we can all beat this addiction. we have been doing this bad habit for so long that's what makes it so hard to beat. "I didn't know about the whole two week mark flatline thing"
     
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  4. Markguy

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    5 days, 17 hours. Struggled a lot last night after an argument with my wife. In the past, I would have acted out, but I didn't and am proud. I just didn't want to add to my shame. I watched some videos with Shi Labeouf "Just do it!" (including some funny parodies) and it got into my dreams in a good way. I had a strong dream where I was actually motivating a group of people to do a better job. Because I sometimes can't find my own strength of voice, and to see myself (even in dream) yelling at others (in positive way), was kind of cool. Maybe my mind is searching for the stronger parts of me. Keep up the fight all. We just keep getting up and moving forward. You all inspire me.
     
  5. Kristian

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    The active persons on this thread are awesome and reading on a daily basis how you get over urges and resisting temptations, is actually very inspiring. A tip for you fellas, which works for me, is: When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on in the first place. Look at your counter occasionally and be proud of what you achieved so far. Most of us already have 5-6 days done already from this month, some of us have even more than that. Some have reset their counter and they shouldn't put themselves down: let July be the month you only fapped once. It still matters.

    Stop focusing on the past and what happened then. I need to learn that as well. I woke today pretty tired and with a shitty feeling inside of me. I cried a little and had a very bad and random mood, as if I was okay with dying in that particular moment. I slept for three hours earlier and now I am feeling a little more confident. Maybe these are withdrawal symptoms, but I am happy that I faced them and walked upon any thought of relapsing and even the depression for today. Congratulate yourself even for every day that passes without masturbating. It will eventually slide into our mind and it will feel all natural not to fap.

    Comedy actually helps in depression. Laughing is a great thing that we have and doesn't cost us anything. Despite everything, I never let a day slip without having at least some chuckles and some good laughter. Watch comedy shows or read jokes, everything that makes you laugh is actually really good. And I also keep a mind a few words from my favorite comic, the roast-master general Jeff Ross: If you can laugh at yourself, then you're one step closer to freedom and comedy always comes from pain. We need to laugh as much as possible.
     
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  6. Real_OGH

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    been having some urges only for a lil while. overcome them. NoFap is making me the man I always wanted to be.
     
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  7. J-Weavs

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    Count me in, little late to the start but it's never too late to call it quits. I'll be checking in, let's make July the start of something great!
     
  8. Rajesh_Koothrappali

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    I know it is a little late. But it is never too late to start changing yourself. So count me in. I am starting from today. As I am getting more active here and quit this habit for good
     
  9. Willy_g

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    I'm in. I need this.
     
  10. writer239

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    Never too late to start man, and welcome to the fight!
     
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  11. MyWaytogo

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    Count me in ! For 6 years I have never managed to stay of P for more than 2 weeks. This month is going to be the a new beginning!
     
  12. Kristian

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    Welcome aboard to everyone. Good luck in your battles!
     
  13. Kristian

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    And yes, I arrived home drunk and I am still going strong. I will not relapse. Fuck PMO forever!
     
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  14. DKR

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    I'm hanging on guys, by a thread but I am. Today was so miserable in every way I really don't have words for it.

    I can' t tell if it's my health issues or the porn withdrawal because it's all just a tangled mess. I'm not horny at all, I rarely am I just want a shot of the P drug to break up this feeling.

    panic/anxiety, rinse repeat

    i guess that's just were edging intensely for 6 hours a night get's you. My chest always feels like it's going to explode. It's like instead of having multiple PMO withdrawal symptoms I just have one massive relentless one and it feels like the hand of god squeezing my heart. panic, panic, panic

    My emotions are all over the place but I do have herb to level me out.

    I worked hard outside in the hot sun all day and I don't feel any better. That's really rare. It's a 'nothing works' kinda day. I think they just have to be endured.
    I think it's just the bad times. I do remember feeling a hell of a lot better than this 2 weeks ago and I need to remember that. I somehow have to remember the positives right now. I literally forget them.

    I'm glad to see you guys hanging on, new guys joining. I love reading all your posts no matter what they are about. The empathy levels this is giving me are crazy. Kristian your words really touch my soul man and have made me cry more than once. I know I don't know anything about you but you are no loser man. I really do see a fucking warrior from here....with all of you.





    this song is my attitude towards porn right now

    my fav line is "I changed my mind, my mind in mine."
     
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  15. Markguy

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    Keep hanging in there. Great song! Fight to the finish! I think you are right some days just have to be endured.

    I've had lots of emotional swings today. A lot of feeling irritated and tense. A few moments of calm. But the anxiety and irritation keeps creeping up. Went swimming and it helped a bit just to move and thrash about. Just got to ride it out. Emotions like waves. They will come and go. But I'm slowly learning to surf them.

    Had two really tough times. One was after getting a haircut from someone who was attractive. She was very nice but a little preoccupied. My addict ego wanted her to be more engaging talking with me. My addict ego doesn't care that she said she's actually getting married in 3 weeks and probably has a lot on her mind. I just wanted her to focus on me. So petty I can be. And then my brain started to have euphoric recall of P and chat stuff. As soon as I didn't get attention on me, my mind wanted to think of P.

    Then later I had some time at home alone by myself. I really wanted to just jump on the computer but knew that it would be a bad idea. I had to just shut it down until others were home. I felt pretty irritated but had to stay away. It sucks that my mind/body right now still wants P to soothe or it feels jittery. But so be it. Like everyone here - we fight on!
     
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  16. falleneagle

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    Hard day today --don't know what was the trigger...maybe too much time on a social networking site that will remain nameless. What starts as harmless way to catch up with friends can create an unexpected trigger because someone posts an article or a photo ...

    Lucky for me - that I had the good fortune of simply coming to this website instead of finding fodder online...

    Thanks for all the posts on this forum -- it is helping me stay strong. I want to see you all on the other side of July and celebrate our small victories that will build up to a big one eventually.
     
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  17. writer239

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    Day two down. Rough day today. Started trying to rationalize relapsing after being set off by some stuff online, but I realized what was happening and distracted myself, so I'm proud :)
     
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  18. Kristian

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    Proud of you all, dedicated fighters. I'm quite hangover, yet really excited about completing my first week with no PMO after a very long time. Keep going, fellas! We can and we will do this.

    Even though I feel like shit and quite broken inside, this small first victory against PMO puts a smile on my face.
     
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  19. I'm in. Succes to all of you!
     
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  20. Matthieu

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    Hi ! i would like to join if that's still possible !
    As I said in my presentation, I haven't have an orgasm for 62 days now, but edging very often... So I really want to attack the problem at its core and stop allowing me to have dirty thoughts (and obviously to watch porn), and stop touching myself.
    but its soooo hard ! It's such a reflex and a huge part of me now ! How do you guys deal with not "reflex touching" yourself when you're alone ? (if that's something you do or did)
    Best luck to all of you !
     
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