Whenever I am with a few friends in the car, or I happened to be left alone with a mate on a discord call or even just outside with nothing to do, hell, even when with random people or people I'm mutual friends, I always feel as though I have nothing to say. I feel like I am a boring person to talk to, my friends have told me that. That I never initiate conversation. Despite as hard as I think about something to talk about, I always feel as though I have nothing to say. My response typically devolve into "huh man that's weird" "oh yeah that's kinda cool" "haha that's neat" etc. you get the idea. Unless we are in a debate where I can bring a new perspective to an idea or a philosophical conversation where we discuss something an idea in detail, I feel as though I am quite a boring person. Despite having multiple hobbies, more than most people. Some of my hobbies and interests include: aviation, soccer, guitar, ping pong, video games, medium distance running, walking my dog, hiking (going to start getting into it) and self-help books. A lot of people I know generally have quite fewer hobbies, maybe gym, soccer and music. Or maybe I just don't know them enough. Yet they seem to have a lot to talk about. It's just really hard for me to talk to people or even have social contact with people. I don't know if I can call it anxiety or just shyness or something else. I find it a big struggle to keep my eyes straight when walking down the street toward people, a lot of the time I need to divert my vision to avoid eye contact or being perceived as looking at people so I usually dart my eyes around my surroundings or stare at the floor. The incel posture. Despite having a somewhat diverse skillset, I find my self-esteem is very low. Sometimes I even think I have Asperger's or mild autism because I see the way I am postured in photos (i.e. limp wrists or floating hands for no reason, looking down alot, avoiding eye contact, etc.) Regardless of this, I am unsure if my low self esteem is causing my social anxiety, or vice versa, or maybe both. But I do not know how to fix this, and please do not say "just talk to people" because that's like saying to someone with schizophrenia to stop thinking the radio is talking to them (it doesn't fix the issue). I am currently on day 23 of my 31 day goal of hard core NoFap and don't feel that much has changed aside from feeling much cleaner, more time in my day and a cleaner headspace (not feeling like I should have another wank every hour of the day). Alot of what people say surrounding confidence and social skills increasing from NoFap largely feels like a farce but I am aware that NoFap isn't some magical healer and improver, it's what you do with the extra time you have. Even though I'm a reasonably intelligent guy I still feel very insecure and ill-confident. I think this is due to my looks as I feel as though I am not a very good looking person, or even ugly for that matter, which I don't know how true that is, but my mates say I'm a decent looking bloke. I've spoken to my school counsellor too but they have been quite useless in terms of boosting my self-esteem, sure I can ignore negative thoughts, but this hasn't led to me feeling any more confident or increase my self-esteem. tl:dr I feel like I'm autistic and retarded, low self-esteem, socially awkward and unconfident. How does one feel confident? Any tips?