Why are you abstaining from PMO?

I don't like something part of myself that I can't control. Plus I don't like constantly lusting after women in my mind. I know that's not who I am. Plus typical benefits of clear mind, confidence, and focus.

 

I want to be aware all the time, and not to loose myself in sordid images for one hour or two per day, or even per week, loosing time, energies and self-esteem.

 

I don't like relying on external things for pleasure. Plus I want to prove to myself I can.

 

I think that's why I started, just to see if I could. Deep down I always hated my PMO habit - my porn use would really disgust me when I came out of my PMO trance state. I really wanted to stop but couldn't and had the misguided belief that regular ejaculation was essential. I had no idea about addiction and Coolidge effect so didn't understand why U couldn't stick to vanilla porn despite promising myself countless times that I would.

Anyway, on my Facebook feed one of the stories that popped up one day was about someone who gave up masturbation and sex for 21 days. "Impossible" I thought. I read his story and he managed 21 days. In the article he referenced NoFap so I read more. I thought that I wanted to give it a try so read how long it would be, thinking it was maybe 30 days. 90 days sounded impossible back then but now I am actually pretty close, unbelievably for me, to double that.

My sense of shame has gone. I feel mote valuable as a human being. PMO was screwing with my mental health and I value that so much. PMO ruined my life. I don't feel like a failure at all but I know that PMO destroyed a big part of me which I'm trying to rebuild. For these reasons I can never go back to it.

 

I am feeling really motivated by you guy this is the most positive communitys i have ever come across. Its so rare to find this attitude of having somthing you dont like and actually beliving and doing somthing to change it. You can really aply it to many differnt thing. Im gonna join you and start with no PMO not in the new year not on monday but right now. Thanks guys

 

I was hoping it would turn me from a Dud to a Stud. A Zero to a Hero.

 

Self-control. Plus PMO actually sucks.

 

Good luck man!

 

I would say I'm more trying to fully recover and kick PMO entirely out my damn life for good. Serves no purpose whatsoever but most importantly I don't want to live a miserable existence?

Lol. I'm sorry this question is naive, but hey we are all at our own levels. Time will surely teach one if PMO serves any worthy purpose, but I can tell you I've seen it ruin lives, literally tear marriages apart, and drag minds down to levels of depravity one just wouldn't think could happen to them.

And then there is the science and research telling us why PMO isn't at all good for you.