Why are you here?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Julius93, May 9, 2018.

  1. Julius93

    Julius93 Fapstronaut

    That's what I want to know. Some say that they suffer from erectile dysfunction due excessive masturbation. Some say that they feel down after masturbation and fail to be productive. I belong to the latter group. I feel depressed after masturbating. This feeling of depression lasts for days. This has been always the case. How does maturbating make you feel? Has it been like that from the start? Why joining nofap now and not earlier? I am just curious.
     
  2. Stevenmdot

    Stevenmdot Fapstronaut

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    It makes me shy around others. It makes me feel insecure about anything and everything. I am shamed to shake peoples hands. I fear people know I masterbate.
     
  3. Just depression? No brain fog or anxiety?

    Are you still early in reboot?
     
  4. Stevenmdot

    Stevenmdot Fapstronaut

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    Yes. 33 days in. First reboot.
     
  5. Stevenmdot

    Stevenmdot Fapstronaut

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    I joined this site because my friend told me about it. I would have joined long ago had I known about it. I tried telling my closest friends about it but they think I’m insane.
     
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  6. Julius93

    Julius93 Fapstronaut

    Damn, that so recognizable. Brain fog and social anxiety because of it. I used to cancel all my appointments and meetings of the next few days when I "relapsed". How long do these feeling last? And how about sex? Do you guys feel the same after having sex?
     
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  7. Brain fog is tough, makes everything harder
     
  8. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    basically couldn't have sex
     
  9. Julius93

    Julius93 Fapstronaut

    That's awful. I hope your problem is solved by now.

    It makes everything somewhat impossible. I don't know whether this thing has effects on the long term, but it definetely has its effect on the short term. I never got in a relationship because of this. I am afraid that I will feel the same after sex. Can someone elaborate on this?
     
  10. Out of the Furnace

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    i´m here because i was at rock bottom, severe depression. and now i realized that it all came from masturbation to porn.
     
  11. LookUp

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    I'm here because I've been a PMO addict for years. I'm almost sixty and as soon as porn started being easy to get on the internet, it was like gasoline on a fire. A friend warned me that I would seek more and more raunchy stuff to get off. Man was he right. I'd say if I continue I will end up putting myself in physical danger by actually acting out with prostitutes and over the last year started looking at a lot of Tranny porn. The thought of how I would feel after performing any act like that disgusts me because as soon the endorphin high wears off there I would be totally disgusted and grossed out. I found myself on horrible BDSM sites and ended up acting out some of this stuff that I can't even write about. I'm here because my wife asked if I was looking at porn again and I admitted it. (She caught me before). She was really hurt. That night (six days ago) or seven, I started researching porn addiction and found this site. I saw myself in so many stories by others. I saw that there is a solution and I have been digging through the forums since. What a great support system with no judgement. People here get it and are all trying to get out of the slavery to pixels of things that for the most part are not real. Just a bunch of people getting paid to denigrate themselves for money and sometimes I wonder if these people are not enslaved in a very real sense.
    My wife is beautiful and a great lover, but in my mind I need that O every day and sometimes many times a day with hours spent edging. After almost a week of no PMO I know that was an outlet for something that wasn't even related to sex. It's more like doing drugs to change the way I feel. It's so much more fulfilling to make love to a real woman and receive love and tenderness back. Relationships are hard work, but much better than the insanity PMO brings.
    Word of warning. My wife really wanted to make love the second day I was abstaining from PM. We did and just like i was warned in the reboot section this triggered me big time. I wanted more pleasure! That's what I am used to. I jumped on here and started spilling my guts and the desire went away.
    I belong here.
     
  12. I can do things but not up to standards so I guess yeah, impossible :/
     
  13. Julius93

    Julius93 Fapstronaut

    You definetely belong here. Because of being married, you have less excuses to PMO than a lot of members here. If one time does not satisfy you, maybe you should have sex more often with your wife or take the time for it.
     
  14. Julius93

    Julius93 Fapstronaut

    Your story resembles mine. How long did you have this problem with M?
     
  15. Julius93

    Julius93 Fapstronaut

    In my experience M without P is just as bad.
     
  16. Hitto

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    I’m here because I started getting ed and started watching tranny stuff and I knew that it was getting bad but now I realize I was giving up my soul to get a few mins of pleasure I’m glad I stopped and after almost 14 months I’m glad choice not to because now I’ve learned a lot about myself and I still am and starting to fix the problems I was hiding from and Im starting to feel like my old pure self again and more importantly I feel a lot more masculine then I have in the past few years
     
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  17. Well, used for 6 years, trying nofap for 3
     
  18. phwrancesco

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    fully solved!
     

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