chillgorilla123
Fapstronaut
Changing our relationship to our OWN sexuality, can be one of the most challenging growth initiatives ever! Using porn or compulsive sexual activity is full of isolation, secrets, shame, guilt, confusion, on and on.
How effective our changes and how long term they will be, is going to be strongly determined by how we approach it. The path will be difficult, maybe the most difficult thing we ever do, and we will only persevere if we are focused on the POSITIVE OUTCOMES, and not the negative things we want to avoid.
This can be really challenging at first, as many of us come to this place in crisis. Our relationship is imploding, our boss discovered inappropriate behavior in the work place, you've been called out or embarrassed by a friend or lover...
Many of us try and quit porn to AVOID losing a spouse or significant other, or do AVOID the embarrassment of ED. Quitting for these reasons may get us started on the path, but will never get us over the line.
Only when we get clarity on the positive outcomes, will we have the resolve to do the work needed to re-wire our behaviors and change our values. Only when I truly embraced a desire to achieve real honesty (with myself and others) was I able to get on the other side. I will have to always continue to work on growth and be mindful of the tricks my mind can play... but now the struggles have so little power. I'm able to have peace in my thoughts and greater love in my relationships with women.
Why are you quitting? Have you identified the outcome or vision of what kind of life you want?
If you are even reading this, feel proud. Just getting on this site and opening your mind is an act of courage and can lead to transformation.
How effective our changes and how long term they will be, is going to be strongly determined by how we approach it. The path will be difficult, maybe the most difficult thing we ever do, and we will only persevere if we are focused on the POSITIVE OUTCOMES, and not the negative things we want to avoid.
This can be really challenging at first, as many of us come to this place in crisis. Our relationship is imploding, our boss discovered inappropriate behavior in the work place, you've been called out or embarrassed by a friend or lover...
Many of us try and quit porn to AVOID losing a spouse or significant other, or do AVOID the embarrassment of ED. Quitting for these reasons may get us started on the path, but will never get us over the line.
Only when we get clarity on the positive outcomes, will we have the resolve to do the work needed to re-wire our behaviors and change our values. Only when I truly embraced a desire to achieve real honesty (with myself and others) was I able to get on the other side. I will have to always continue to work on growth and be mindful of the tricks my mind can play... but now the struggles have so little power. I'm able to have peace in my thoughts and greater love in my relationships with women.
Why are you quitting? Have you identified the outcome or vision of what kind of life you want?
If you are even reading this, feel proud. Just getting on this site and opening your mind is an act of courage and can lead to transformation.
