Why can't I get a GF? Any thoughts?

Wow this post was wayyyy back. If you read my recent post on the loneliness forum, you'd be surprised at how far I've come. Even though I could do better, I'm happy that I'm not where I was 4 years ago. Other than that, I feel you man. Out of all the women who I've had interest in, I was never able to connect with them even though I desperately wanted them from afar. In reverse, the women who had great interest in me never turned me on as well. It's weird, but I understand what you're saying. Other than that, read my recent post. Hope you find some inspiration.

 

Read my recent post on the loneliness forum. You'll have to search from last month, but you'll know all about it!

 

Oh my gosh, I can't believe that we're continuing a post from 4 years ago. Wow. I'm very surprised you asked me that, and to be honest, parental expectations has played a HUGE role in my dating perspective. To start off, I'm the oldest son in an Asian family. My parents are highly religious and strict on the cultural and traditional ways of the Eastern society. Not to mention, they prefer me to marry an Asian women where there's clearly none around. So yes, and among other annoying things, this is one of the main reasons why I've had such a hard time finding a girlfriend at the time.

 

Yeah that's very true. And that's why I'm so determined to change my ways and to become a better person. If you've noticed, I've been telling everyone to read my recent post. I've come a long way from what I was 4 years ago. Even though I have much more to experience, I'm finally ready to make some changes. I've suffered at the hands of bad relationships with women long enough, so now it's time to make a change once and for all. On the other hand, I'm scared of what's about to come, but I've been wanting this for a long time. What I'm talking about gets deeper than that, but if you read my other post, you'll understand. Also, good luck to you as well, and I hope you'll eventually find/or have found a nice girlfriend of your own.

 

Not to worry. I wasn't really offended or anything. I was just surprised that you asked me that question, but in a good way though. You see, I didn't want everyone to think that the only reason why I couldn't get a girlfriend was because I didn't believe in myself or some sort. There's a lot my to story, and that includes parental expectations. And as annoying as it is, my parents are still amazing people and I love them dearly.

But like you said, I want my own life, and I even told them that. They're starting to understand me now, but the guilt still lingers upon me no matter where I go. Sometimes, I can't make up my mind on who I want to be with. It's getting to the point where I'm deciding to move far away and be completely on my own for a while. I'm starting to realize that a relationship is clearly not the best thing for me right now.

 

I'm Vietnamese by the way. As for the situation between my parents and I, it's a long and complicated story. I think most of the stuff I'm talking about is probably in my head. And maybe I'm just putting all this guilt and frustration upon myself when there's no need to. My dad used to be a Buddhist monk and a highly religious man, as my mom. All of the children of my parents' friends and even the Vietnamese community all have Vietnamese wives and husbands. Very few are of a different race. In all honesty, I don't think my parents are forcing me to marry another Vietnamese women. They only prefer me to. In the end, I'm sure all they want for me is to be happy, but for some reason, I just have a hard time dealing with the guilt if I don't meet their expectations.

 

Thanks for your support man. It's funny how I wrote this post 4 years ago, and somehow it's starting up again. Now that nearly half a decade has passed, I would say that I'm in a much better position than I was 4 years ago. Some of the things essential for finding a girlfriend such as a full time job, a car, a college degree, better confidence, and so on were things that I didn't had back then. However, during the last year, a lot of good things have happened to help me improve. For one, I got promoted at work and I've been talking to female coworkers more just to name a few. In a way, I'm starting to slowly accept myself for who I am, and I feel like I'm only going to grow from there. Other than that, I appreciate your support and thanks again for your help.

 

There is many reasons

 

Thanks for the quote. I'll keep that in mind so I can tell others someday.