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Why did you relapsed in the past? Share up to 3 reasons.

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by traveller22, May 20, 2016.

  1. traveller22

    traveller22 Fapstronaut

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    Hi all.

    I'm trying to understand people's experience of relapse a little better & in particular, what they see as the main reasons for past relapses.

    If you had to select your top 3 reasons for relapsing in the past, what would they be?

    I'll start...

    1. Lack of will & determination to never PMO again.
    2. Neglect of risky/trigger/'middle circle' factors.
    3. Lack of a dynamic & interactive accountability partner relationship.

    The more people can contribute, the more useful this exercise will be for us all.

    Thanks in advance.

    Strength!

    T22.
     
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  2. 1. Lack of will/No real motivation
    2. Too many triggers during the day
    3. Tiredness (the hope to get energy from PMO (WTF?!?!?))
     
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  3. Winston

    Winston Guest

    Thanks boys for your honesty. It helps me a lot.
     
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  4. Horny, stressed out and unhappy. Those are my three reasons.
     
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  5. I've never relapsed with porn. I took that leash off my neck and it's never went back on.

    I did however wank and/or edge 12 times in the last year, and that is failure to me. The reason? There's only one, not three...

    It's like trying to give up smoking crack cocaine
    when the crack pipe is attached to your body between your legs!

    [​IMG]
     
  6. Jungler

    Jungler Fapstronaut

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    Stress that leads to anger that leads to triggers that leads to pmo. In that order.
     
  7. I only have one as well and that is envy.

    Being in a nearly sexless marriage, I fooled myself into watching other married couples have sex and imagining it was us. When it's over, if you relapse, reality is brutal and you don't want that feeling again. I've all but neutralized my sex drive so my relapsing days are over. Mainstream porn was always a turn off for me, from the time I visited my first strip club in my 20s and got a lap dance. The poor girl looked sad and full of despair, I could see it in her eyes and it wasn't arousing in the least. Now, seeing real couples in love, staring in each others eyes while having sex, that was my weakness, because with two marriages, I had been there a lot and there is no substitute.
     
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  8. 1: Depression
    2: stressed out
    3: Looking at psubs
     
  9. avatarivn

    avatarivn Fapstronaut

    My top 3 reasons for relapse :

    1: Slow accumulation of stress
    2: Lack of emotionally-healthy handlers of negative emotions
    3: Little or no rewards from the real world
     
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  10. Buzz Lightyear

    Buzz Lightyear Fapstronaut

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    During the recovery process, I'm not overly concerned with a relapse. My top priority is to uproot the desire to want to relapse. In other words if it were a choice between having 100 days on my counter, yet fighting the urge all the way, and having a shorter counter with an urge that was in its death throes, I'd go for the second option any day.... if that makes any sense.

    The reasons for relapse is pretty much the same for everyone I think. Why focus on them.
     
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  11. Amit shah

    Amit shah Fapstronaut

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    1-Boredom 2-lack of work 3-horny thoughts
     
  12. Freefaller

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    1) Wallowing in my singleness
    2) Stress
    3) Boredom
     
  13. Daredevil99

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    1) being lonely at university 2) being depressed and thinking porn is the only way to enjoy myself 3) being a strong addict and not having the motivation to stop urges
     
  14. nitsuj0786

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    1. Stress
    2. Boredom
    3. Rationalizing that I can watch porn and not relapse. I lie to myself saying it will just take the edge off and I will only watch for 5 mins. Never seems to turn out that way.
     
  15. Kristen

    Kristen Guest

    -p-subs
    -stress/depressed/lonely
    -to please someone online. :/
     
  16. CountryDude

    CountryDude Fapstronaut

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    1. Sexual frustration
    2. Searching out higher novelty
    3. Hopelessness
     
  17. GSarosi

    GSarosi Guest

    I freaked out that was why. Before knowing about rebooting/rewire and the flatline I took a week off planning to going on three to build things up. I thought that was all I need and boy I was wrong. In that week of that one week hiatus from PMO I just don't have the libido and drive. Like everything just disappeared overnight. Poof. Here today gone tomorrow. My morning wood was also gone too. WTF?!?!?!? By the weekend I forced relapsed in hopes of getting that libido back. That PMOing was just sad all around. Then I thought I had a testosterone problem. After further research online I found NoFap and porn addiction. Then all came to light.

    Wish I have two more reasons but I don't. Ha ha.
     
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  18. melancholy king

    melancholy king Fapstronaut

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    1) Boredom
    2) curiosity (the moment you have actively searched for anything sexual, you are done for)
    3) lack of sex
     
  19. BlackKnight

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    1) Horny
    2) Pissed off at my patheticness
    3) Negative thoughts in my head
     
  20. 1) Alone
    2)Bored
    3)"Ah I'm 15 days in, one rub off couldn't hurt..."
     

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