Why do you like porn?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by modern milarepa, Apr 28, 2021.

  1. levya

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    I used to think i hate it. It wasn't true, you don't go back to something over and over that you hate. Now i admit i love porn, i love how it feels etc. BUT this is like a toxic relationship. No matter what i feel about it, i have to stay away from it. I have to make prevent it to abuse me no more. You may love porn but porn doesn't love you back that's for sure.
     
  2. LostInTentacleAcres

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    Oh man, I know I have reasons when I've even been trying to quit as long as I have (and for some of you who just keep coming back, you really need to ask yourself this question to see what's holding you back), so here are my answers.

    1) It's the only outlet I'm confident I'll have for my fetishes (that porn at least had a part in dragging me into).
    2) It's the only form of activity (aside from any mindless web-browsing) that actually feels replenishing rather than draining or like more 'work' (again, porn's fault very likely). As such, I know nothing that feels nearly as good to replace it with, because by the time I'm done with whatever hobby it might be (assuming actual work isn't more important), all I'm really in the mood for is more PMO.
    3) My experiences with porn in at least one regard are opposite to some of you. For me, the addiction has made me docile and uninterested in actual sexual activity, having it ingrained in my mind that I'm so used to porn that real sex is almost bound to be disappointing as far as visceral pleasure goes (as such, intimacy is all I would seek from real sex), especially given that my own sexual interests are very much unlikely to align with any potential partner. It destroys my ability to feel lovesick or attracted to people beyond a certain point, for which lovesickness has caused me to do a lot of stupid things in the past, or at least come close to doing. In other words, porn makes me content/complacent about my current sexual situation. On that note, the increased sensitivity and sexual desire immediately following starting a longer NoFap streak has never been something I liked, and has only seemed to open my mind up to more risky sexual behaviors pertaining to my fetishes that have occasionally scared the hell out of me. Unfortunately, for some reason, I'm often just more rational after I've spent as much as 5 hours total a day on that shitty routine and my balls hurt.
     
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  3. This is an important insight. The problem is that we like porn too much. The more you can look inside yourself and see what that’s about the easier it is to let it go and move on.
     
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  4. zeke27

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    I don't like anything, now I realize that is disgusting, I can't believe that I've watched other people have sex during years
     
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  5. Re-Life2010

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    For me:

    1. It's an easy "outlet" I can go to escape fears and stress in my life right now.
    2. I can view Woman from another descent that I have an interest in. I know what they do is disgusting to some minds, but porn makes you think its okay regardless.
    3. I'll be honest... I really do want to make love again especially with a Woman. But nothing is happening in my life to look forward to especially with dating going wrong.
    4. I did "cams" it was honestly the most real thing you could cope with. It's money out of your pocket and I always did the lowest packages. I realized the last time I have done it, is because I was hurt.
    5. I can be with a Woman the easy way out. Maybe more fulfilling then being in real life. Real life takes allot to get with a woman.

    Tip: You don't know how many men those woman had sex with, How bad their parts are hurting from just one seen afterword's. I believe most like any models are infested with STD's, that they just stay dormant, is my theory.

    One of my co workers told me the other day ironically. "Relationships don't last a life time, but AIDs does."
     
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  6. Koli Pratham

    Koli Pratham Fapstronaut

    Enjoyed it in the early days when i discovered it hahahahah Later it became Escape Mechanism for me, but now I think it's just waste of time and energy.
     
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  7. PegasusKid

    PegasusKid Fapstronaut

    For me it's mainly a quick escape from the bullshit and misery of my life. I'm not interested in being with a woman or any relationship or sexual encounter, so besides masturbation there is no source of orgasm for me and that's been a bit hard to accept. There's really no feeling like a good orgasm I can think of besides maybe some certain drugs, intense workouts or tapping into the flow state. For a lot of men, its something they can casually use while maintaining healthy relationships, friends, a good job and healthy habits etc. I realized a long time ago I am not one of those guys, my depression makes me cling onto anything that makes me feel good in an addicting manner. Video games, tv shows, youtube, porn, even books or comics. Like an alcoholic acknowledging they just can't handle a drink, I acknowledge that about myself and that's why as much as I enjoy porn and the artwork of hentai, this is something I'm choosing to leave behind. I'm sacrificing short term good feels for long term satisfaction, its that simple.
     
  8. GotCaught

    GotCaught Fapstronaut

    Most of the replies are triggering...
     
  9. Top grossing

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    Because of this thread modern milrepa is temporary suspended :(
     
  10. PegasusKid

    PegasusKid Fapstronaut

    I get that, and that was my initial thought too when I first saw this post. But ultimately there's no point in lying and saying you hate porn if you use it all the time. Addictions form because there is something rewarding your body and mind are getting out of the substance, in this case a rush of dopamine and distraction for a lot of people(the most common answer seems to be escape and not having to go through the discomfort of what comes with being with a real woman). I think its a healthy but maybe slightly uncomfortable exercise to admit this. If you don't know how porn benefits your monkey mind and why you keep using it I would imagine that makes it a bit harder to know what to work on.
     
  11. Re-Life2010

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    If this is true this is a load of bullshit. In therapy you come clean and realize why your doing what you do, so you can have a clearer conscious. Asking why somebody likes P**** is just a curiosity.
     
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  12. Re-Life2010

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    No. Not necessarily.. It’s clogging out your mind from the fog.
     
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  13. MikeBR

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    Honestly it’s because it gives me what I desire without acting out in real life… even though I have at times.

    but the best has always been the amateur stuff. I never buy the fake stuff even though I get off to it.
     
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  14. Koli Pratham

    Koli Pratham Fapstronaut

    Eh!? Why? That doesn't make any sense
     
  15. JoeinMD

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    I love the sight of naked bodies, organs, and even sex acts - I feel they're are things of beauty to look act and wondrously and erogenously exciting to see. Of course, my being a side spectator is the creepy part and my becoming ravenous for others' sexual activity (and the overall degradation and abuse of the whole porn industry) outside my own personal and licit sexual life is demeaning to my mind and soul in the end.
     
  16. Top grossing

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    So tell me why he is temporary suspended?
     
  17. Re-Life2010

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    I'm wondering if this is fake or actually true. Not judging, but how would they know?
     
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  18. PRECISELY !
     
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  19. Additionally, I have heard that heroin provides the closest thing to this feeling. Wouldn'r expect any heroine addict to say they "like" heroin.
     
  20. brtiger83

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    I like the instant gratification of porn. It's like I can have a different girl anytime I want. But now I've realized that porn has messed-up my concept of rewards. Its like I don't need to run a race to win it. And where's the joy in that?
     

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