I don't think you're off the mark. I agree completely. She has found something that works and I was hoping a woman would chime in with her thoughts on WHY THIS WAY. What I'm learning is that there is a reason and it works for her and I should be more focused on understanding why (not changing it). I need to meditate on the betrayal piece (I did think of the "it takes her time to connect emotionally and feel comfortable" part). And again, got to push past the uncomfortable part of being vulnerable. She HATES that. Thanks, Kenzi.