I am really struggling tonight SOs. Backstory caught my fiancé using porn after saying he was not for a year. He never had an O with me until after he stopped the PMO and still only from my hand. I suffered trying to help him thinking he was working towards the goal. So has he been PMO free? Yea I think so but he's mad as heck at me even though he won't admit it. I sent him the apology letter that @AverageBear posted. He thinks I should move on. When I get upset he says "everything I do is wrong, you will never get over this you will hold it against me forever." He negative talks "Well I'm just a liar I'm a horrible person" but he wants me to contradict him. I say you are not a horrible person but you did lie and what you did was horrible. We have the same fights over and over and I honestly don't understand how he even thinks he has the right to fight with me! One big thing is texting. He travels a lot for work and if he does nor respond in a timely manner say over 30 minutes or an hour I get anxious. Not during working hours I don't expect it then but after hours or on weekends. I was never like that before but I explained it makes me anxious now When I don't hear from him. But he keeps doing it. It will be hours and I send multiple texts and there's always some reason. Now sometimes his reason is valid and I explained to him that's okay but I need you to validate my feelings. I want him to say I'm sorry I understand why you are anxious and upset and when he does I calm down except since the PMO reveal he never does that he fights with me. He's extremely defensive and says he does not understand why I'm mad he did nothing wrong he was too busy to text and he's not apologizing. Obviously that makes things 100 times worse! He said if I don't feel I did wrong I'm not apologizing. So we fight and fight and I'm just exhausted. I can't reach him guys why can't I get him to understand I need support and understanding? I have supported him so many times! Does he honestly think he's going to win or make things better? Is this how he thinks trust is rebuilt? I tell him exactly what I need and he refuses to give it to me. And I don't think he's doing anything sinister I think he just does not understand why I need reassurance and so he won't do it and he does not think this should be taking so long for me (2 months) but it is and the more he acts like this the longer it takes! Why can't he hear me what do I need to say?