Why I am not willing or putting effort to do Nofap?

[SanketVaria29]

14 years of addiction, 7 years of nofap trial and error. I tried many different techniques, such as surge surfing, not counting days, meditation, exercise, changing my environment, planning my day, keeping myself busy, and changing my mindset. But nothing ever worked. Today, I learned the bitter truth after thinking carefully. I am simply not willing to do Nofap. I am not taking this seriously at all, If I would have, then those above-mentioned methods to do nofap would've worked. I realized, I never actually properly used any of those methods. For example workout. All I have to do is 10 pushups at 12 PM and I am always at home. It requires 0 effort yet I skip even that. Not exaggerating, this is real. I am taking nothing seriously, not even my career, health, relationships, dreams. It's as if I have no interest in life. I am not motivated or desired to do anything. I can easily put blame on PMO and say that it robbed me of motivation of living but that solves nothing, it's just a blame game. I already know 100 benefits and bads of Nofap and PMO respectively. I have a strong goal too. But there is hope because after every time I relapse, I try nofap again without giving up. I am fully ever that my situation can be changed in positive way and I can certainly become a normal human. The only plan that comes into my mind currently is to just force myself to do the activities that I have planned such as meditation, exercise and Job. maybe their effects will start up add up eventually to get me into state where I can have my motivation to live return and do nofap. But I no longer trust myself in this sorry state, So I come here for help and guidance.

 

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Thanks for your post and in many ways your story mirrors mine. I too have had the same experiences (mostly negative) and I know for sure PMO is the culprit. I've "tried" to give up plenty of times to no success worth talking about. Many of those relapses were not even a fight. They occured because I started fantasizing and got myself going before doing the deed. I'm used to that life. It's been my bread and butter for aslong as I remember so the thought of leaving it for good scares me. But that is the addict talking. The real me somewhere hates the thought of being an older man still indulged in the sick world of PMO. Really and truly, we do feel like we are taking nofap seriously until an urge hits. How serious we take it depends on the decision we make at the heat of the urge. Or even sometimes just prior. To prove your point correct, I am now taking this very seriously. How do I know? Because PMO is no longer an option. I will be in control of my urges and not the other way around. I know exactly how I would feel one second after a relapse because I've been there millions of time. I am now constantly reminding myself that this phase will pass. And guess what? The urges end up vanishing. I wake up with a sense of relief and happiness that I'm still working on a better me. Many people have overcome their struggles with addictions and are true examples of success. We have the ability to join those type of statistics. All the best my friend

 

[WinningSystem]

Been sort of trying to quit for 4 years here. It's so easy to get complacent and not try hard.

I recently came back to these forums to help me gain my fight back. When I first came on here, I fought so hard to stay clean. And it worked, but I eventually fell back into pornography and masturbation.

I am coming back and still trying because I want a Godly life. I don't want to live in sin and reap the consequences.

Why do you want to stay clean? Is there anything greater than benefits like confidence? What made you desire to begin NoFap in the first place?

Do you have direction in life? Do you believe in God?

You might have to try some more intense strategies like accountability, blockers, dumb phones, and the like. Accountability has helped me when I've gotten complacent. You need to be willing to use radical methods to get rid of addiction.

But at the end of the day you gotta want it man.

Praying for you! And a happy new year!