Even though online dating is much more common than it used to be, there still seem to be people who don't like it or who view it as the last resort for people who fail at finding a partner any other way. I would like to put forward my view that the opposite should be the case, that online dating should be considered the ideal way to meet a partner, and that anyone serious about finding a relationship should be doing it. I would also like to argue that if you are serious about finding a partner, you should be putting serious time and effort into it every day like it's one of your main projects. Why? Well, I like to compare it to job hunting. If you are unemployed, and have been unemployed for a while, and you really want a job, what do you do? You go on job websites. You put your CV/resume out there in as many places as you can, you regularly go on the job sites, you regularly apply for jobs, and you go to as many interviews as you can until you find something that suits you. What you DON'T do is simply hang out with people in social situations in the hope that someone you casually meet in one of these situations may just happen to have a job vacancy that suits you. Well, that sometimes does happen of course, but it definitely wouldn't be your main strategy if you were serious about finding a job. In my mind, dating is not really any different. If you're single, you're sexually unemployed. You want to find someone who is looking for what you have to offer. Your best chance of finding someone like that is to go where you know for sure there are people with vacancies - the dating equivalent of job sites. And you don't just join one site, you join multiple sites. You get your dating resume out there in multiple places. And you apply for vacancies every day, and you try to go to as many interviews as you can, in the hope that eventually you will find an ideal match. And yes, you will see sexy women on these websites. Often they will be in tight dresses, and sometimes they may even be in bikinis. But you know what? You have to be able to cope with that without losing control of yourself, just the same as you would need to be able to see sexy women at a beach or in a public swimming pool without losing control of yourself. Yes, you've decided not to watch porn, but that doesn't mean you should hide yourself away from seeing sexy women how they may normally be seen in public. Another analogy would be if you were looking to rent or buy a house or apartment. You wouldn't just go to social events in the hope that someone you spoke to happened to be selling or letting a house or apartment. No, you would go where you know there are houses and apartments available to rent or buy - an estate agent. So, if anyone wants a relationship and they are wondering if they should do online dating, the answer is 100% YES! Join all the good dating sites/apps. Make your profile as good as you can make it. Message as many women as you have time for. Arrange dates whenever possible - and enjoy them! If you get rejected, just forget it any keep on going, find the next one. Don't take any of it personally. Keep on moving, keep on improving. But socialise too. Find groups that you are interested in and have fun with like-minded people. You never know what can happen. Maximize your chances from all directions.