Why I wear a chastity device

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by MarinoBigFan1984, Sep 30, 2017.

  1. MarinoBigFan1984

    MarinoBigFan1984 Fapstronaut

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    As I have been on my NoFap journey I have tried my best to become a better overall person. About a month ago I started to wear a chastity device ( it’s a shaft lock that makes erections very uncomfortable and masturbation impossible). I only wear on Friday-Sunday. I bought it as a relapse prevention tool but now see it as part of self imposed penance to bring about positive change.

    Masturbating I never thought was really that wrong (still don’t) but if overdone can lead to various sexual difficulties. I never did it more than 2X a week. What bothers me is the porn. I know watching porn was wrong and I did so willfully. I didn’t leave up to the tenets of my faith or my own code of ethics.

    Wearing the chastity device isn’t easy. When your member is trying to become fully erect and meets metal resistance it’s very uncomfortable. It’s even worse when it becomes an all day battle between your member and the metal. I have the key I can unlock myself anytime I want and I do to shower, sleep, etc but that battle eventually ends with my member being tired and usually a tad sore. The soreness to me is the price I pay for not living up to my values especially with regard to porn. My plan is to continue this penance till the 1st of the year.
     
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  2. Sananafraz

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    Do you think you'll develop yourself into a self disciplined man by using a commitment device? What happens when the device is gone?

    I must say, the penance thing sounds like a fetish. Be careful, my friend.
     
  3. I admire your concern for keeping your codes but the wise among us who follow those codes would not advise such a device.
    I hear Muhammad Ali the boxer would use a matchstick to remind himself about hell, so to prevent temptation. Your member is a delicate organ, whereas heat to your hands from a matchstick is not that critical.
     
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  4. I advise making good habits and watching out from the internet when you know you're getting thoughts. Willpower alone is not enough
     
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  5. JamesD

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    Out of curiousity, how did the chastity device work out for you?
     
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  6. Sounds like a fetish to me. A way how to sexually stimulate oneself without actually masturbating. That constant rubbing and feeling that it is there probably gives pleasure to the guy. Maybe even the idea that he can not get erection might be mentally arousing. Maybe he is fooling himself too by pretending to himself that he does this for other reasons than he actually does it. I hope I'm wrong though. But if I am wrong then still this idea does not seem very wise to me.
     
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  7. Jrandomuser

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    Wow. I'd heard that this community was super supportive, but the last 3 threads have been super judgemental.

    "Sounds like a fetish to me. "

    "That constant rubbing and feeling that it is there probably gives pleasure to the guy."

    Way to make a snap judgment based on assumption.

    Just because something isn't "your way " or the "pure elitist way" doesn't make it wrong.
     
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  8. overclocked

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    Very radical. I assume that chastity devices are not a fetish to you and your decision to wear one is intended to aid you in your personal growth.

    I would be worried about sexual dysfunction. You are crushing your own sexuality. You exhausted yourself with porn, now you are supposed to let your body and brain recover but how are they supposed to when you let your bodily functions be automatically punished?
     
  9. dude have you looked into the health effects of this. dont damage your dick. erections are healthy and normal. you are going to fuck your shit up. also the chastity device sounds very masochistic. i think that will do damage to your self esteem. you should treat yourself better. i would read the book release your breaks.
     
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  10. Philomath

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    Some logical questions to consider:

    Will you be able go on normally in life without the chastity belt?

    Is there potential long term damage when you do get erections. I'm assuming the general goal here is to heal our sexual organs (the penis and brain) from damage. Making erections painful...could be damaging in some whole other way. I'd hate to bend my penis long-term from one.

    A lot of people learn to -accept- their sexuality, but control it. Is your method simply trying to suppress your sexuality by associating it with pain? What's the potential this could do to your sexual neural-pathways?

    I don't have any answers for these. I doubt anyone has any conclusive answers for this. I am curious though.
     
  11. Philomath

    Philomath Fapstronaut

    Also sorry to double post, but you seeing this a:

    is very disturbing. I know a lot of fundamental religions try to make arousal seem dirty, and something to be guilty of. But Your sexuality and desire is natural. It's natural to have these bodily reactions, and it's ok to accept having them. The only thing you're at fault of is being warped by porn, and a chemical imbalance which you can normalise over time. Your mindset is quite revealing, and you should maybe reflect on why you think this is a penance - and not just a recovery. Drug addicts don't flagellate themselves in rehab. Neither should you. :)

    The difference between us and drug addicts, is we can't get away from sexual urges. They will always be part of us. You need to harmonise with them in a healthy, non-destructive way. I don't think you're doing that, tbh. :)
     
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  12. Quawk91

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    It's like a morbedly obese guy still going to Mcdonalds everyday but deliberately leaving his wallet at home.

    That's not solving the root of the problem.
     
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  13. whoami33

    whoami33 Fapstronaut

    I dont have any idea about the device you are using, but i disagree whats next.

    Its good to get help specially at first, at first i had porn blockers on all of my devices. Recently i removed the last blocker on last remained device and i keep going.
    If you think it helps then use it, maybe for longer time than you decided at first but this does not means you would need to use it for ever.
     
  14. Meditation Monk

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    Sounds like a good idea to keep in mind. You learn something new every single day.
     
  15. I don't like the sound of this. It's linking your mind and wiring you up to believe that erections = Pain, erections are bad, unwanted, and if you do this long term your brain may not be able to produce an erection when needed. You have been warned. Soon enough it will not be something you have conscious control over your brain wants to avoid pain and discomfort, and what cause pain and discomfort? Erections, sexual desire, which is a normal natural part of our human carnal nature built into our DNA. We where meant to procreate, so I wish you luck with getting it up, having sex and children. Vigra may not do it. Amazing the lengths a Christian will go to.
     
  16. Why Friday - Sunday? I get Friday as the conventional day for penance and the sorrowful mysteries, but Sunday? Seems like an odd choice.
     
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  17. Long term use of a chastity device will decrease penis size and will 'train' your penis not to become erect at all. Unless you effectively want to become an intact eunuch, I'd remove it from your reboot, if you can.
     
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  18. Contentful T

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    Try this instead, when you get an erection that makes you nervous or rather you would rather not have one at the moment for some reason or more importantly you think it may give you a mental urge to fap, yes I said mental because erections don't give urges to fap by themself, it's in the mind, then rather than going FULL MEDIEVAL and possibly damaging your man jewels try squatting in a deep horse stance.

    I PROMISE you (well I am vegan so my anatomy might be supercharged to react to the meridinal redirection much smoother than a non-supercharged system, ok now I am ranting and putting vegans on a throne) well I mean in my experience at least, vegan, sitting in a deep horse stance literally makes the erection go down within three deep breaths sitting at 90 degrees. It redirects the qi immediately like that.
     
  19. Contentful T

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    Also one could always step into a cold shower if there are major boners that won't go away and you are home in a high risk situation i.e. alone.

    Otherwise as grown men we should be able to handle ourselves without this kind of stuff.

    Believe it or not you can unlearn masturbation and not everyone partakes of it contrary to "pop culture theory".
     
  20. Ra's Al Ghul

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    Are there any cool ones I can get via Amazon Prime same day and free shipping? Dam no wonder Jeff Bezos is killing it, chastity devices.
     

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