Why Inaccessible Fetishes Are The Most Dangerous

This will be an incredibly awkward conversation, especially for me.

Fetishes. Everyone has them. Some are vanilla, some are niche. No matter what you're into, you've likely spent a few hours of your life searching for content relating to it. Some of us are fortunate enough to have an accessible fetish, or one that has content widely available on the internet. Others, however, are less fortunate. Some of us have fetishes that are so niche that it is rare that we find related content on the internet. So, why is this such a bad thing outside of the obvious?

Let me interject by talking about my own experience. I have a pretty niche fetish. I try not to talk about it on here, but it feels necessary to share with the class for the sake of clarity. Here's a hint: It falls under the umbrella of humiliation. Did you guess it? No, you definitely did not. It's pantsing. Yes. A pantsing fetish. Unfortunately, there are almost no videos online for this. Only a few professional pornographers make content for this fetish, and all other content related to it is posted at random by users on social media who have no idea they are providing a random teenage boy with his deepest sexual fantasy by pranking their friends. Creepy? Yes, but that's a conversation for another thread.

I find that the professionally made content centered around this fetish is mediocre at best, so I gravitate exclusively to the few random videos that surface on social media of pantsing occurring. In the age of strict social media policy, this is terrible. Of course, the human side of me is all for the censorship, whereas the horny side of me is devastated. Unfortunately, I can only locate about five of these videos per week. Of these five videos, four are usually censored. So that's about one video per week that I have never seen before. On top of that, these rare videos are normally taken down immediately or kept in private, so I never see them at all.

So that brings us back to the main question, why is this such a bad thing?

It's simple. The harder it is to find something, the more time you spend looking for it. A lot of people with inaccessible fetishes have to turn the internet upside down to find something new that caters to them. This means that they spend far greater amounts of time searching for NSFW content than most people do. There have been instances where I have stayed up from midnight to sunrise looking for new pantsing content because I simply could not find anything I hadn't seen before. On top of that, it makes me willing to go to more extreme measures to find these things. This means venturing onto sketchy websites, problematically interacting with the users who posts the videos to manipulate them into posting more, and joining Discord servers dedicated to this purpose. These are troubling and destructive habits to develop.

While I am speaking based off of personal experience, I know I am not the only one who feels this way. I know I am not the only one with a niche fetish who has wasted hours of a single day looking for just one new video. I know I am not the only one who has become so desperate that he checks TikTok every chance he gets to make sure that a new fetish-specific video doesn't get deleted before he can see it.

Can we help it? No. Can we fix this specific problem? Not really. The only way that we can pull ourselves out of this is by quitting PMO altogether. However, this thread is meant to start conversations about an issue that I feel is rarely addressed.

If you are in a similar situation or have advice for people who are, I encourage you to start a discussion below. Remember that we are bigger than our problems and we can overcome them with a little help from each other.

Thank you for reading!