Why is it so hard to get a girlfriend?

Intimacy literally means sexual intercourse.

 

It literally means sex, that is the definition of it.

 

Oxford dictionary says that one of the definitions is sexual intercourse

 

The euphemistic definition of intimacy is sexual intercourse.

 

I think it is not especially in today's society. But only in today's society men do want women more than before because it seems like it became much harder to get into a relationship with a woman. Men used to earn more in the past(and were valued more because of many reasons), most likely because of labor being mainly physical and women not having proper sanitary treatment. But also, there was probably discrimination since men were not used to woman in the workplaces, which is not really good. But in today's society, I feel like men are not valued as much(by women and by society), which also leads to a more drastic increase in suicide rates among men.

I am not an MRA.

 

Hey, this is amazing content. You seem like a really energetic person, keep up the good work. I subscribed and liked the video. But my problem is different. I can get attraction from many females, and some of them describe me as being hot and so on. But as soon as I start talking to them, they see that I am introverted and depressed they immediately start thinking that I am weird and there is something is wrong with me. Or sometimes I pay attention to them and for some reason, they stop liking me. I don't really know how to deal with this. I am shy as well, but I don't really know how can I not be because I don't really feel like a shy person but people say that I am very shy. When it comes to anxiety, I don't have it(I used to have it but it completely went away), and I can approach any girl on the street or anywhere calmly.

I cannot afford to go to psychologists for my depression since it costs much and I am still not making my own money, I am looking for a job at the moment.

Also, I cannot tell girls that I have depression because I feel like it is going to backlash against me. Which has happened many times within my family and outside.

 

I am a little taller than the average guy with broad shoulders and I am more or less orginized looking person. My looks and who I am(my occupation and andy experiences and so on) do attract some girls. But when it comes to talking with them, it most of the time results in loss of interest.

So in short I do talk to some girls sometimes, but the result is usually the same. Loss of interest.

 

Yep, I have an issue with conveying my personality in a relatable way. There are many things that lead to clamping up, one of them is that I don't trust girls too much because of the way I was treated by my female relatives. Also, I have a bad depression because of many things, such as living in a different country, not being able to find a job, constantly moving from one place to another and so on.

Yep, I think a lot on what I want to say. That is generally the way I am.

 

Yep, you got it right. However, my problems they almost never go away. I don't know why, but I am very unlucky about the situation of my life right now and have been unlucky for 3 years already. Also, it is very hard to live as an international person in a different country. So, my problems are legitimate and yes I have an inclination toward depression and I lose the purpose of my life very often nowadays.

Yep I have insanely good episodical memory and I remember everything that happens around me. So, I tend to analyze the social situation in my mind and be harsh about it toward myself. My episodical memory lets me to do it very thoroughly and I feel the shame and other feelings deeply.

You are right about letting go as well. I do mindfulness, journaling, gratitude and so on for years already. But it doesn't help too much with the thinking and analyzing mind that clamps me up in conversations and other things.

I will try what you said. I think I will try to protray my personality in general towards people. However, with girls, it is on pause for now since I don't have time to approach them.

Thanks for the information you really understood to some degree what is happening with me.

 

It is not that straightforward, in my opinion.

 

I have talked with a couple of therapists before and have been diagnosed with depression, a severe one I think. But I cannot go to a therapist again because it costs too much and it takes too long for therapists to know me. Unfortunately, I lost my faith in my childhood, I follow only a philosophy called stoicism right now.

I think if I find a job right now I might go to a therapist or try to figure stuff out on my own.