Why shouldn't I give up

All I can say is I hope that you keep striving, I know how tough it is, everyone here knows how tough it is.

Here are some tips:

1) When you get tempted, leave the phone, computer, laptop, TV, whatever device and go outside for a walk

2) If for some reason you cannot make it outside, beforehand, in fact right now install some porn ad blocking apps and return later, type in a random password or give your password to a friend or family member

3) I suggest you get off social media which contains many triggers

4) Inform friends or family if you haven't already and ask for support

5) Talk to God and pray to Him.

 

If success was so easy to get no one could ever be failure.....quitting seems better option than struggling but that doesn't makes you a man, what makes is your fight for yourself and for others, but first fight for yourself only...
Its difficult to fight with your brain by your brain..but at the last its fight you have to decide whether you want to quit or fight..its not impossible but hell lot more than difficult...you have let this pmo ruin your life, rule over your life, so you have to overthrow it...porn will not kill you it will just make your life worsen day by day..so better you start by today..don't wait for tomorrow....
if you think you can't control it..ask for help..go for consuling ...start by bit by bit...make 1 day resolution for NoFap...whatever its that excites..your phone,pc be away from that avoid them..socialize with people..if 1 day works fine for you then go for more but start by zero then only you can reach ten....the root cause is not porn but the factors that make you watch porn..look for them. solution is simple but hard to adapt avoid them as much as possible....

 

It's hard but you never lose until you give up! You can come out winning. Take it a day at a time and try to not be so hard on yourself. There will be easy days and hard days. Each morning is an opportunity to win.

Try setting your goals small at first. This helps me. It can be difficult when you see posts about people doing 30-90 day streaks and you're stuck at 3. Trust me, I'm there right now.

I find it's easier when you set small goals of sets. Instead of doing a 30 day streak, try doing 10, 3 day streaks. I hope this helps. You are not alone and many people are going through the same battle. Consider yourself a step ahead since you are identifying this behavior and want to change it.

 

I want to give up

But you know if I give up I will be the same as cracks addict

If I give up now I will never be a able to enjoy the life

If I give up now my grade will suffer

I have many reason to give up but deep down I know that when I give up my life will stay like this forever

 

To tell the truth, I haven't told my parents either because I don't think I need to because it's really hard. I don't know how it is really hard.

 

Brother this answer from quora will help you I have already given up passive entertainment and pmo to be successful in GATE CS 2017 exam which according to me is path to USA from India via IIT,plz do read
pend a month without passive entertainment.

What is passive entertainment?

Watching movies, cricket, serials, songs, porn etc.
Reading novels and newspapers.
Masturbation, sex etc.
Surfing social websites like facebook.
Doing anything which is fun but does not involves you intellectually or creatively.
Now, why should you avoid passive entertainment? Because they tame you. They give you joy and keep you going with a life that sucks. You first get brainwashed during your day and work, and when you finally have time for introspection or thinking, you compensate the bad day through passive entertainment which makes your sucking life a little comfortable and you find a reason to live. You get tamed by society and its expectations. You work hard during day and watch porn in free time. You compensate. You do not revolt.

Or maybe you do. That is why you posted this question.

Now, what will happen when you give up passive entertainment? You initially feel emotional shocks. You were addicted to passive entertainment, bollywood-hollywood bullshit too much. But slowly, you will become stable. Your life will appear before your eyes in its untinted ugly form, as mine appears before my eyes. But without stimulations from passive entertainment, your life will suck more. There will be no joy, no passive entertainment, no reason to live.

And then, you will have to find the reason. You will start doing small things that give you joy. If you loved trekking before, you will become crazy about it. If you loved painting before, you will start spending nights doing it. If you loved mathematics, your brain will start storming with ideas.

People will start calling you lunatic, but that’s what they call all extraordinary people.

Give up passive entertainment. Find out yourself. The real one.

 

Why shouldn't you give up? Well, that's easy. Whether or not you give up is the difference between whether or not you are happy, both now and in the future. There is so much at stake. I didn't even realize how much is at stake until I got to about 22 days into my streak. There's so much that depends on what you do now, and it will affect you very much in the future.

Discipline is everything. You sound like you've gotten to the point where you are starting to despair. There are two possible paths you can take from where you are: you can either just give up right now, or you get serious.

I don't mean serious like what you have been doing up till now. I mean really serious. If you want to break this addiction, you will need to either get help from someone like your parents, or you will need to go on a protocol of total self-denial, or both. Either you exercise extreme discipline over yourself, or you let someone else make you do so. Either way is fine, but those are your only choices.

^ This is good info, except maybe for the part about reading. Reading good books is enjoyable and can be a source of self-improvement.

Here are a few tips based on personal experience:

1. Get up early and go to bed early. Make your bed right away. These things get you on the right track. Keeping an ordered life, in both small things and big things, will help you immensely.

2. Exercise regularly in the morning. This is a good application of your excess energy. Take cold showers. They are unpleasant, but breaking this addiction is about making your life unpleasant in good ways. That's self-denial.

3. If you can't stop yourself from going on your computer and finding P and P-subs, then you will need to take away the opportunity of falling into this trap. Either get rid of your computer, or set up several layers of filtering software secured by a long, complicated password that you write down and store somewhere safe.

4. An optional suggestion: buy a small notebook, and make it into a journal for yourself. Write down your goal, your resolutions, and your day-by-day results. As opposed to a NoFap journal, this one is for your eyes only. You can take it anywhere, and you will not be distracted by other things while you are reading or writing in it.

5. Stay away from the computer as much as possible. Only use it for things that are necessary. Give up video games for a while. Keep youtube and social media use to an absolute minimum. Don't even visit NoFap more than once or twice per day. Getting away from the computer is extremely important, and though it may be very difficult, you'll be glad you did.

6. Never, ever, ever binge. Even if you go several days and then reset, make sure that you stop yourself after one reset. If you regularly reset after a certain number of days, make sure that number of days keeps increasing as much as possible and never decreases.

This is a protocol that may seem strict, but I assure you that if you've gotten to the point where you are despairing of ever recovering, this is necessary, and it works.

You shouldn't even be thinking about giving up. You should be thinking about how you are going to succeed, and about what you are going to do differently after each reset. For six years, I repeatedly thought that I would never ever be able to break free. I thought that I had tried everything and that there was no hope. I felt as though I would always be too weak. And now, at last, I am on the path to victory. You too can get on that path. It takes hard work, perseverance, and patience.

Follow these tips, and not only will you feel like a champion, but you will be a champion in a fight against your evil impulses and desires.

Never give in, never give up. All the best.

 

First off, I know how hard it is to tell a parent or loved one about this. It is very hard, and I am definitely able to empathize with you on that.

That being said though, you do have to tell them. Leaving this addiction as a secret doesn't help at all. Support of any kind, especially from your loved ones, is absolutely valuable in your recovery. I remember being absolutely scared out of my mind when I finally decided I had to tell mine but once I did, it was the absolute best decision I ever made. And trust me, your parents are going to be proud of you that you confessed this. They obviously aren't going to be joyful about you having this, but they will be very loving and supportive. Trust me, it is worth it.

 

Great advice!

 

You CAN'T do anything related to PMO.

You CAN do an almost infinite amount of other things instead.

Take that urge energy and channel it into something else. It doesn't have to be noble. Read Dr. Seuss books if you so desire. Just don't PMO.

 

bhai please guide me im a jee aspirant,currently in dire need of expert advice.

 

As one of my favorite quotes says: " You cant always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but if you just keep moving you will come to a better place."
Life goes through phases. Just keep going and things will get better. Some things that have helped me is reading. I am religious and i read scriptures and am currently reading a book called redeemed like David, a guide to overcoming sexual temptation. If your not religious a great book to read is Wild at Heart. It talks about mens true nature and how fulfilling life can be but also how things like addictions and pornography can suppress our true desires and potential. All im getting at is try to get out your head, stop only focusing on yourself, read a book, get out, tell yourself positive self affirmations, and just keep trucking along and before long life will get better. Work on noticing cycles you have that lead you to the way you are feeling and then do whatever necessary to break them. It can be hard, like you said some days its hard to just get out of bed. I went through an extremely drepressed episode in life not too long ago. all i could do was take it one day at a time and kept trying to be possative and i can confirm to you that my mindset completely changed. Im serious, its crazy how much of a difference there is when you just let time and positive thoughts change your mindset. Good luck.