Why so much dopamine is bad? I don't understand

Time and effort are probably the only few things that P and M will save. Everything else is just being drained away until you see a dull world in black and white where nothing gets you higher than pixels. Natural sex is an achievement but you'll never say the same thing about P&M because finding someone who cares about you and having sex with them is something you work for. You know how people go running up to their friends all excited and they say "Guys I just had sex! " and everyone's happy for them? They won't have that same reaction with PM because you didn't work for it. The adversity is part of the process and no one will want to be with you if you think everything leading up to the sex with them is a waste of time. It's just you make it sound like a real pain to work for something better, but that is probably the addiction talking as mentioned ^

 

I think something like pmo and drugs and such make us such abnormally high dopamine levels that our receptors have to tone it down to kinda compensate for the massive dopamines coming in. This is desensitization. Like when it’s too loud, we cover our ears or whatever it takes to lower hearing the loud sound. Same idea. So now the receptors have become desensitized, it’s gknna take more dopamine to feel that level of “high” again so anything else, like everyday stuff, will pale in comparison.

 

1. It's unnatural, your brain lowers the dopamine receptors number because dopamine levels are too high. => Depression, Desensitization. It also rewards you hardly for doing absolutely nothing & that's not how you are going to suceed in life. On the top of that, it is sexually immoral, and considered a sin by many religions.

 

This is true but its also about learning to deal with the mundane, the every day monotony of life. it is unnatural to experience the high levels of dopamine us porn addicts used to achieve regularly, so whilst abstaining, our brains are re-adjusting, almost like a process of grieving or dealing with a loss. Like the person yearning to have their loved one back, an addict abstaining from their substance or behaviour will have a sense of loss to contend with. But it does get better over time, the more you abstain and the more work you put in to building other coping strategies for things like boredom or leisure the more that will help to build new neural pathways in your brain.

It's why taking it 'one day at a time' is an important mantra to get used to 'just for today i don't have to use' because if you are new to abstinence, projecting too far into the future or even accepting to yourslef that you can never use again can be stressful. eventually you will get to 6 months, a year, multiple years and it will just click, you will realise that you haven't craved porn for a long time because you've been so busy doing other activities to fill your time, the compulsion fades and the need for immediate gratification becomes of very low importance.

 

Yes, there is a feeling of sadness mixed in with horniness, etc. - good catch!