Why virginity is a good thing?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by orderdetail, Nov 28, 2019.

  1. orderdetail

    orderdetail Fapstronaut

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    So basically being a virgin in todays society is a very shamefull thing. well let me tell you that its a blessing when looked at in a good way.

    You can reach big things if you approach virginity as a blessing. All that seed (lifeforce if you will) is able to manifest itsself in a big way. That is if you keep it inside. If you havent heard of the book think and grow rich you should look it up.

    If you want me to make a big blogpost about this please let me know i am willing to do that.
     
  2. helpinghand4all

    helpinghand4all Fapstronaut

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    Brother I can comprehend, everyday I'm getting more comfortable with myself, more influential, more comfortable around girls and it's crazy how much influential my presence has become now.

    I think the post should've been "Why being single is a great thing?" But I like that you pointed out "virginity", that I myself am ashamed of.

    The biggest thing nofap has given me is the ability to control my thoughts and myself, I can divert my thoughts and meditate now!
     
  3. orderdetail

    orderdetail Fapstronaut

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    I myself am not single nor a virgin but i can assure you that being not needy will improve everyones life.
     
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  4. Personally I don't think virginity is a good thing...well, not if you wait too long!

    Our biological clocks are short remember...
     
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  5. orderdetail

    orderdetail Fapstronaut

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    Not for men..., but yes i agree all im trying to say is that its not someting to be ashamed of
     
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  6. Krillin1993

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    So, I am 26 years old and I am still ashamed of being virgin. That doesn't mean I will go to a prostitute or book an escort service to have sex for an hour. But I don't know how to deal with it, not having ever sex in life.
    I think almost everyone had sex in life, also the people who are saying "being virgin is not bad" are people who are not virgin anymore. I feel that pressure and I am asking questions to myself like what if I am 40 someday and still never had a girlfriend in my life. To be honest, I am an introvert person and also alittle bit shy to strangers. Maybe I have to acept the situation never having sex until the right girl comes into my life, and if not I have to deal with it. But then I am seriously thinking about what is when I am reaching 40 or 50. Should I go to a prostitute to have fun? Or should I leave it? It is not all about sex, it is also about hugging, kissing and stroking with using your whole body, which is more important than just dumb sex. I simply miss the feeling of being loved. I never had a female person in my life who said "I love you",....not even my mother said that to me and she doesn't love me. She is mentaly ill and she never gave birth with the intention of a loving mother..... I dont know how to think and act anymore. Maybe I was born for being unlucky and sad for the rest of my life. :(
     
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  7. Get yourself out there dude! Whether part of a loving relationship, or just for fun you have the right to sexual gratification!

    Just keep away from PMO, which will only isolate you.

    Sex is amazing, get out there and enjoy yourself!
     
  8. Angus McGyver

    Angus McGyver Fapstronaut

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    I feel the same thing these days when I have been on semen-retention and been PMO-free for almost two years at this point. Everything (including yourself) slows down, people don't become as intimidating or annoying and hence respect you way more than if you react to their petty behaviors.
    By restraining your semen, all vital minerals, nutrients and proteins will be preserved, plus your vital life force and energy. It is this difference that makes some men stand out from the crowd and it is sad when you come to the realization that the vast majority of men in the developed world (+95% probably) are literally jizzing away their short lives, never experiencing what it feels like to get a touch of mastery, true freedom and power which is not too far away if they are willing to learn and give it a chance.
     
  9. Abzu

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    i don't agree with most people here, sexuality is a precious gift and being virgin until marriage is a great thing. it means you value your purity and saving something special for your future spouse.
     
  10. max marcus

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    I was a virgin until I got married at 26. I feel proud of myself for only doing 'it' with someone I really love and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. In some cultures like mine, we are proud to be virgins until we got married.

    Take note that being a virgin does not mean that you are a lonely person who do not know how to communicate and socialize. You just save it for your love one.

    I also think that to look at virginity as shameful is part of why porn exist. Both ideas are saying that it is okay to have sex with just anyone. I could be wrong though.
     
  11. Thank you for the recommendation! I'll add it to one of my wishlists and hopefully read it one day!
     
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  12. GunnarMaxim

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    Lifelong celibacy should be something to strive for. In the Christian Bible as well as in Buddhist teachings it is suggested to relinquish our worldly desires to focus on God and in the case of Buddhism to be closer to the path of enlightenment. Ancient humans understood the power of celibacy. You have time and the ability to accomplish things that no one else does. Turn what is considered to be a bad thing into what it truly is. You are free beyond what others can fathom yet you and many others do not see it because your mind is clouded in emotion and expectations ascribed from outside of you. The world rules over you and it doesn't have to be that way. Stop seeing yourself as the victim and instead see the good in your life and what you can make out of it.
     
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  13. Depressed&Out

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    I'm a 36 y/o virgin..... it's definitely a bad thing and unnatural to go that long without sex!! All sort of mental issues!!

    It's suffocating and dark having the mind of someone suffering because of this.

    I fucking hate my fucking existence.
     
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  14. Chin up bud, better late than never!!!
    Hope you find someone one day!
     
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  15. Alk14x

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    Life-long celibacy may give you supreme powers but can't be blanketed as something to strive for for all (many want children, even see it as an aim when progressing on NoFap). If it was the case and successfully executed there would be an extinction.
     
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  16. GunnarMaxim

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    Many monks, nuns, and eunuchs in time have committed to a life of celibacy. Many geniuses throughout history such as Tesla and Isaac Newton were lifelong virgins as well. I don't think it's the virginity that's the issue, it's your mindset.

    Don't you think it's silly to put sex on such a high pedestal? Relationships are what give sex any value and I think you have to agree on some level otherwise you wouldn't be a virgin, right?

    You're right, not everyone can handle or should pursue a life of celibacy. I'm just trying to shed light on how one can perceive their situation to be more positive and less lonesome than what it appears at face value.
     
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  17. Infrasapiens

    Infrasapiens Fapstronaut

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    Sounds like a good excuse.
     
  18. Alk14x

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    Thanks for adding value to this thread... I just had to clarify that a life of celibacy shouldn't be an endeavour for all.
     
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  19. I want to mention some famous Nofappers from the past :)

    1. Isaac Newton

    2. William Shakespare (of course, just look at his name)

    3. Mark Twain

    4. Ghandhi

    5. Buddha

    6. Pythagoras, Hippocrates, Aristotle, Nikola Tesla, Plato

    7. Mike Tyson and Muhammad Ali
     
  20. It's like with tattoos. So many people have them that at some point it will be cool to not have any. I mean, sex is not something so important. Idk who and how and why made this image up - if you have sex, if you ever get laid you're cooler than someone. What about fuck no? I mean virginity is a blessing at some point. Maybe not even virginity but ability to keep your balls to you and spend energy they give you for something important, not just touching someone and licking, pushing around things. It's a way we share energy and have a good time, but definetely not a really really important thing.
     
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