Why We Fap(ped)?

Probably infinite possible correct answers to this question. I think you are exactly right. We settled for less than we could be.

I am accepting a more basic biological explanation only for myself right now.

I am programmed to seek and do good things. PM is a false supersaturation and so I became addicted to seeking it more. I believe my base brain will justify it and really want me to find reasons to do it again.

My brain would say “- just one good brain bath of dopamine - that would satisfy”. But it actually hurts my brain. And the false crap never satisfies. In fact it made real satisfaction impossible to find. So I never will again use PM (I really really hope ).

I have lots of other holes in my life and weaknesses to work on. My brain would like me to compensate with PM, but they really are not linked.

I am going to separate areas of my life. Make good habits in one area at a time, then add more good habits.

I am keeping it simple and only going to think about it at that level for now. PM is my brain asking for something that will hurt me - like any addict looking for “just one more”.

 

Since boyhood we have taught ourselves to utilize fapping as an escape. We fapped to relieve ourselves of the pressure of life and what subsequently follows is a boy trapped in the body of a man who is totally unequipped to deal with the stress, the pain, the anxiety and insecurity life hurls in his direction. I am a big believer in the fundamental role shame plays in our desire to fap. If we give masturbation and easy release the power to fill in the void that is our insecurities we have chosen a life in which we have never grown up. The scariest part is most men may never be aware of what they are doing to themselves. Fapping for some has become second nature and I am very glad that I have never travelled so far down the rabbit hole that I could be lost in finding the exit.