Why we keep coming back for more porn ?

Sharing secrets is a way of making friends. That means when people let you see something that is usually private you could assume that they are trying to be your friend. This makes lonely people more distracted by porn.

 

A problem shared is a problem cut in half. The more secrets we keep, the sicker we are. There is nothing any of us could share that others haven't done too.

 

Yes, the main problem being addicts let their emotions control them instead of controlling their emotions.

 

It's probably a factor of things - addiction, habit, boredom, and just because you can. I think as you become more resilient, the reasons for lapsing follow along that list - first you do it because you are addicted, then because it's a habit, then because you're bored, and then, perversely, just because you can.

In my opinion this process reflects our psychology - think of a series of concentric spheres with your will at the center, and your interface with experience on the outer. So your battle is on the outer sphere first... you are here most directly determined by your experience/ environment... you are acted upon.. you are addicted. But you win this battle... the compulsion starts to weaken, but then you have another battle to fight.

The next sphere is habit. It was what you did with much of your leisured time, and so you might use simply because of habit. Here you need to develop other activities/ pastimes.

And then there is boredom. In those quiet times, when you are not interfaced with anything, but face to face with yourself, you will desire to escape from the discomfort. You become aware of a need to strengthen your inner core.

And then you come to the innermost sphere, that of your will. It finds itself free at last, and yet this freedom can be 'perverse' - it may tell itself it can use as it is free to do anything [the idea of recreational use]. But you know, having once been an addict, that this can be a slippery slope back to the outer spheres. Personally, I think you need some form of morality to which your will submits here.

Good luck.

 

There is the physiology that may be more applicable to the outer 'spheres', but there is also the psychology that is more applicable to the inner spheres... in my opinion.

 

Just be wary of sharing your porn secrets with friends. You might find yourself losing them.