Why???

I am really sorry to hear that. Some guys will say anything to get a woman to stay with them and they really don't follow through with their intentions. I don't understand how any guy would rather masturbate to porn than have sex with a real life beautiful woman. I just cannot wrap my brain around it.

 

My only suggestion (apart from finding a new boyfriend) is not to pressure him at all. For a month don’t tell him what to do about anything. Don’t pressure him once. Incase it’s anxiety/performance based more than anything else and incase you are creating pressure on him leading to both these issues (pmo and lack of performance) . If I’m getting nagged and told what to do in general life it’s a turn off for me. Anything sexual also has to be spontaneous and not planned. And she has to be keen too..and I don’t have issues with performance never have

 

I know it's too late but you should have waited for marriage before you started doing all the sexual stuff. Then the problem would have either never arisen or would have manifested and came to a head. Tell him you will not be sexual with him anymore until he gets serious about leaving the addiction and getting married. It will force him to either come to his senses or chose to devote himself to his lust. If he chooses the latter you will be smart to move on.