Dear CF's, I am dealing with a dilemma in my heart and wonder how other married CF's are dealing with it. My urges with getting hits through wondering eyes, media, or general out in the community triggers have 99% been subsided. However, my urges to be sexual with my wife is like a hurricane that just will not move on. My feeling about those urges are conflicted because I do not want to "deal" with them as they are healthy urges for my own wife...at least I think they are healthy. But then they might be just my addiction channeling all its energy toward one open target that has not been shut off? I do not want to squelch my urges toward my SO because I want that fire to continue to burn hot for her, yet these urges are really killing me...like daily, if not multiple times a day. I am managing ok with lots of coping mechanisms now, daily posting, counseling, going to groups, etc, and remaining sober, but this is just plain nuts. Any advice would be much appreciated. I thank the Lord for this group of honest men trying to do right by Him. Thanks guys.