WILL I EVER STOP RELAPSING?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ThePhoenician, Sep 7, 2017.

  1. Damnit I did it again. I relapsed for the lost count time. I know that the reason why I keep relapsing is because I cant say no or even try not to think about the temptations. The past two days temptations have been eating me alive. Yesterday I nearly gave up and well today I did. Now I am left with one question. Will I ever stop relapsing? Is it possible? I mean shit I have been trying for like a year now and I haven't been able to get anywhere. Is there any hope for me at all? Am I stuck with this porn addiction for the rest of my life. I feel dirty and ashamed of what I have done. I have not only let myself down but everyone who knows I am struggling with this down. Like right now I don't even know if God even trusts me anymore because I have told him that I am sorry and that I am going to stop but I don't. I feel like a total failure and I feel like this is getting to be a lost cause and that I am going to be stuck like this for the rest of my life. Anyone else feeling what I am feeling or have felt what I am feeling. Please I really need help. I want to get my life turned around.
     
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  2. Quitting porn is a huge undertaking. There's nothing easy about it. I know it sucks but your situation is quite common. I've decided to quit porn first and then I'll focus on hardmode. If you keep failing at quitting PMO try quitting the P first. It's the worst part anyway, in my opinion.
     
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  3. Hmmm I have heard that a couple of times. Maybe I should consider it.
     
  4. seaguy44

    seaguy44 Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

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    Try to set up a reward system for yourself. 24 hours of whatever your particular goal (P, M or 0 or all three PMO) and start from there.
     
  5. MGWalt

    MGWalt Fapstronaut

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    What if you start to fap, and then quit? Is this still a relapse? *guilty*
     
  6. Yeah I have had a rewards system in the past I think I am going to create a new system.
     
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  7. nofepper

    nofepper Fapstronaut

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    it's called edging and it's worse than PMO, and yes, it's relapse
     
  8. HappyDaysAreHereAgain

    HappyDaysAreHereAgain Fapstronaut

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    Don't ask a bunch of strangers what you are going to do. Decide what you are going to do and then do it.

    Why are you quitting PMO? What do you want out of this? When you successfully complete your reboot, who will you finally be? If you will think more about your goals and successful results, it may help you accomplish it. I was PIED, incapable of getting an erection even with P. I have a wife, and I was motivated to be able to good solid husband. My reboot was no picnic, but I knew what I wanted. It is great to have it. What do you want? Can you want it enough to seriously give up PMO?
    As long as you get back up and keep fighting, you are winning. You are learning, and you're are getting better. Stay strong. You can do it.
     
  9. Nigel94

    Nigel94 Fapstronaut

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    I saw a comment here from someone. He said do not focus on the days u go pmo free but rather focus on what you are doing now to prevent being triggered into watching porn. After relapsing 2 days ago I'm going to try this to reach 90 days and beyond. Hope this helps.
     
  10. TheLoneDanger

    TheLoneDanger Fapstronaut

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