@thebankarena Unfortunately, they are memories and ones tied in many ways to your environments and whatnot. This means that they will still be there, they will always be "accessible". However, and very important,
how you react to them will change provided that you "starve" the "little monster" (no pun intended) as suggested above. It is a part of you, not who you are, but still there; this distinction is very important.
Also, what you do and how you react (who you can be in relation to the outer world) is completely and totally up to you. It is common knowledge that we are molded by society, that we are subject to societal influences that make us who we are. While that is certainly true, it is not the whole picture. The rest is that we can make choices to change our thought patterns at will to move away from the big imprints that the society can push on us. This is not common knowledge, well, ironically, because of society.
In short, those fetishes and whatnot are simply going to be memories, like you remember where your favorite supermarket is, but that doesn't "get your gears turning". It is just information. You have the ability to decide if those memories will continue to cause reactions or not, you just have to be conscious of it.
Lastly, I know how you feel about wishing they will be gone forever. I am not dismissing that. I've been there, but that's just very, very rare and not something to focus on. Instead focus on course-correcting your trail of thoughts, but be gentle about it, be loving to yourself, be understanding of yourself. A part of you feels like it is your life, don't completely dismiss that part, you won't like how that feels. Always make change available, and all the best!
