will nofap help me become more masculine and alpha?

requake · Jan 12, 2021

Hey everyone! I've recently learned about nofap and the benefits and I really wanna stop fapping, as hard as it is, I know how bad it can affect the human body and I think I'm a victim since early ages(11-12yo), I looked absolutely normal when I was 11-12, after that when puberty hit me I started becoming long and skinny looking like a baguette (even when I was a kid I looked more alpha, seriously.. I had a thicker neck and bigger face) But now I'm 25yo and when I compare myself to a normal looking men my age, I have girly hands, skinny wrists and a goose neck almost.....compared to other normal looking masculine men with high testosterone and confidence. My dad has huge hands and huge neck, and here I am looking like a goose. My body is literally identical to JB's right now I'm a little taller than him 1.85CM. I hate the fact that I look skinny as a girl in the wrists and neck, and I think the main reason for this is because I have low testosterone levels because of too much fapping since early age and somehow I stopped my normal masculinity and growth of muscles.. I don't know exactly.... I'm working out since 5 months and I barely see any progress, well, there is some, but I think it could be better with nofap combined,.. and I have skinny fat, man boobs, and a stomach fat, even ass fat...goose neck, etc.. you can imagine the picture.. :/. My current goal is to become more bulkier and alpha looking with a thicker neck, you know what I mean... I have a normal height, but my body is just so weird, skinny and fat on top of it. I'm 83kgs, just imagine JB with body fat, thats how I look. I even look similar to him in the face, babyface and look like 18-19yo even though I'm 25. I wanna genuinely ask if Nofap would help me become more masculine combined with regular workouts and biking, etc.... I wanna look more bulkier and manly when I'm next to a girl for example, even men..I feel like a coward and guilty after I fap and have to socialize. I have a girlfriend and I almost feel feminine in some scenarios when I'm with her... which is not OK. I wanna improve as a MAN and be the alpha male.... will NoFAP help me achieve this? I wanna hear if there are similar people like me and if nofap helped them overcome this situation...So far my record is 5-6 days of nofap and I didn't see much of a change, only thing I saw is that I was more bored than regular, less angry , maybe because I did edging sometimes......which is also bad, my sex drive is insane if I don't fap for 3-4 days...I have a girlfriend and we have sex almost every week, so It's really hard for me to do nofap hardmore. I'm trying but the best I do is 5-6 days and after that I'll either have sex with my gf or fap/edge.. I want to develop as a man and don't live like a pussy no more, I just don't understand this, I need someone to enlighten me and help me with this situation... Please! Will nofap and not watching porn will help me normalise my man growth and masculinity after this age or it's too late now?? Sorry If I sounded very confused(which I am) and if I didn't explain it correctly. English is not my main language so... I hope you'll feel me!

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You went 5-6 days max?

That's good. Because this means there is a golden opportunity for you to do Nofap, to take this as a challenge and see how it feels to go WITHOUT.

And it does help with being strong, provided one combines it with the right habits aswell, which becomes easier to do on Nofap. So, it's an upward cycle really.

takingthejourney · Jan 12, 2021

yes

Trobone · Jan 12, 2021

No - giving up masturbation will not magically make your body structure change. Puberty does what it does, and we can't do much about it. Avoiding choking the chicken will not suddenly make your wrists bigger, or your neck thicker. That's just not the way it works.

Some will tell you the opposite. However think of it this way. If avoiding porn and masturbation magically made people more muscular and attractive and taller, etc - every man in the world would do it. There would be millions of studies showcasing the results and proving it. There would be self-help seminars and TV shows and such every single day selling it as a product.

This is the BIG HOWEVER though, if you decide to reuse that time and mental energy into things like meal planning and exercising and improving your mental state, then that can have massive impacts both physically and mentally. You can change your body - through exercise. You can change how you think about yourself - through things like therapy. You can change how others see you - through working you onyour mentally and physically.

it's worthhile to do, but if you go in expecting your body to be changing shape after 90 days with nothing else being done, you're setting yourself up or failure.

requake · Jan 12, 2021

maybethereisfutureforme said: ↑

You went 5-6 days max?

That's good. Because this means there is a golden opportunity for you to do Nofap, to take this as a challenge and see how it feels to go WITHOUT.

And it does help with being strong, provided one combines it with the right habits aswell, which becomes easier to do on Nofap. So, it's an upward cycle really.
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Thanks for the good words bro.

Trobone said: ↑

No - giving up masturbation will not magically make your body structure change. Puberty does what it does, and we can't do much about it. Avoiding choking the chicken will not suddenly make your wrists bigger, or your neck thicker. That's just not the way it works.

Some will tell you the opposite. However think of it this way. If avoiding porn and masturbation magically made people more muscular and attractive and taller, etc - every man in the world would do it. There would be millions of studies showcasing the results and proving it. There would be self-help seminars and TV shows and such every single day selling it as a product.

This is the BIG HOWEVER though, if you decide to reuse that time and mental energy into things like meal planning and exercising and improving your mental state, then that can have massive impacts both physically and mentally. You can change your body - through exercise. You can change how you think about yourself - through things like therapy. You can change how others see you - through working you onyour mentally and physically.

it's worthhile to do, but if you go in expecting your body to be changing shape after 90 days with nothing else being done, you're setting yourself up or failure.
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Thanks for your reply, I really appreciate it! I know that it'll not magically change my body, but I was wondering if nofap would help me speed up the process, I've mentioned that I started working out recently and theres not much of progress with my body, I mean it's just slower than some people. Would nofap have impact on developing muscle mass quicker than usual or it will just make me more motivated to workout, etc..not being lazy and have stronger willpower? I want to combine workout + nofap also taking ashwagandha capsules daily to increase testosterone and reduce stress... eating protein bars almost daily.. the problem with me is that I gain fat in areas that I should't gain, And I think that is caused by low testosterone. My appetite is crazy I eat alot and all I gain is stomach fat, chest fat around nipples(man boobs) and thigh fat, nothing in the muscles..only a little bit wider back and little biceps thats it.. covered with skinny fat. I think men with normal testosterone gain fat mainly in face/cheeks, stomach, arms, hands... but for me it's the opposite. feels like women fat... And thats low testosterone for sure. :/

kropo82 · Jan 12, 2021

Even better: ridding your life of porn will help you see that you do not need to be more masculine or more alpha. It'll be like Kung Fu Panda.

Trobone · Jan 12, 2021

requake said: ↑

Thanks for the good words bro.

Thanks for your reply, I really appreciate it! I know that it'll not magically change my body, but I was wondering if nofap would help me speed up the process, I've mentioned that I started working out recently and theres not much of progress with my body, I mean it's just slower than some people. Would nofap have impact on developing muscle mass quicker than usual or it will just make me more motivated to workout, etc..not being lazy and have stronger willpower? I want to combine workout + nofap also taking ashwagandha capsules daily to increase testosterone and reduce stress... eating protein bars almost daily.. the problem with me is that I gain fat in areas that I should't gain, And I think that is caused by low testosterone. My appetite is crazy I eat alot and all I gain is stomach fat, chest fat around nipples(man boobs) and thigh fat, nothing in the muscles..only a little bit wider back and little biceps thats it.. covered with skinny fat. I think men with normal testosterone gain fat mainly in face/cheeks, stomach, arms, hands... but for me it's the opposite. feels like women fat... And thats low testosterone for sure. :/
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Working out and changing the shape/composition of your body takes TIME. Actors who transform for movie roles have dedicated dieticians and chefs and personal trainers and spend hours a day doing it - and it still takes them MONTHS.

If you're worried about testoserone - see a doctor. Don't take random herbal pills and seek internet solutions. Let the doctor do blood tests, tell him/her your worries and let the actual doctor tell you the results/truth.

Da Werd · Jan 14, 2021

Reducing or eliminating the fapping and porn will probably do you a lot of good... in ways maybe you don't anticipate.

If you've been into these addictions since you were a kid, you might not know yourself very well. And it sounds like you don't like your current state much. So you don't have much to lose in trying it out for a while.

I used to be really self-loathing and anxious. I used to want to be this alpha sex tiger that women swoon at the merest sight. It seems silly to me now, but it was a big preoccupation at the time. So I understand a little of what you are going through man.

Please don't worry, don't hate yourself, love yourself. You know, you are much more than your body. You've got so much potential to do good things for others. You're in the prime of your life. Maybe you feel inadequate but people with much less than you have still accomplished so much.

So I wish you the very best. Good luck bro!

requake · Jan 14, 2021

Da Werd said: ↑

Reducing or eliminating the fapping and porn will probably do you a lot of good... in ways maybe you don't anticipate.

If you've been into these addictions since you were a kid, you might not know yourself very well. And it sounds like you don't like your current state much. So you don't have much to lose in trying it out for a while.

I used to be really self-loathing and anxious. I used to want to be this alpha sex tiger that women swoon at the merest sight. It seems silly to me now, but it was a big preoccupation at the time. So I understand a little of what you are going through man.

Please don't worry, don't hate yourself, love yourself. You know, you are much more than your body. You've got so much potential to do good things for others. You're in the prime of your life. Maybe you feel inadequate but people with much less than you have still accomplished so much.

So I wish you the very best. Good luck bro!
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Thank you for the amazing response bro!

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