Wish I was born in an earlier decade..

I know how you feel, I hear these stories of people who did a lot of traveling and dating a lot of girls, worked various jobs, went to college, got a job doing what they love... And here I am at 25 feeling like I just woke up and now the party's over and I missed everything. I think this will permanently affect me. (hence the Marlon Brando quote in my signature, though the context he used it in was much much different) I was also just thinking earlier about the first time a girl liked me and I didn't go out with her, we were 14. I was an idiot, no, I was a wanker.

I definitely feel for the youth of today, they're being given these electronic devices at younger and younger ages, if parents aren't careful they'll grow up knowing only that, and the boys will never bother to talk to the girls, won't know how, won't know how to relate.

The best thing we can do as individuals is accept what's happened to us as a challenge of our generation, walk away, and serve as positive role models for those who are still wankers and porn addicts. The damage has been done, all we can do is heal.

 

It's weird lately I've been thinking about what I'm gonna do with my kids (when I have them) to stop them falling into this trap. At first I thought the best way was to block all harmful sites, monitor internet access and not give them personal computers. It took some time but I realised that this would only serve to alienate them growing up. I guess what needs to happen in order for them to avoid unhealthy sexual attitudes is for me to be as open as possible about sex without being creepy. They need to understand that whilst masturbation isn't necessarily negative, some of the associated behaviour is. I want them to feel comfortable in talking to me about the subject so that I can guide them on what's right and wrong. At 11/12 years old, I was far too young to be making that decision for myself and I got involved with things I shouldn't. If I'd been comfortable discussing my feelings with my parents, they could have explained to me that I was confused, that I was experiencing new things with my body and provided me with an appropriate outlet for the energy. If only that happened I wouldn't be in this mess!

What I'm trying to say is technology will keep on advancing and the internet will never stop growing, the only way to help our kids is by radically changing our attitudes towards sex and porn. It's a huge part of modern life so we need to shake off the awkwardness and attached stigma and address it!

 

What you say sounds really good and I hope that it will work for you and your children this way. But I have doubts that kids will ever want to talk openly about sexuality with their parents. I think its like a natural reluctance. My father tried do speak openly about these things but I was always like very insecure and didnt talk back. When you want to do this you need at least a very good strategy about WHEN and HOW to tell WHAT. But maybe it will be somehow or other a good start to talk with your kids about porn and masturbation. Because thats what my father missed and thats what they also miss in sex education in school. They just talk about having sex and making babies, because thats maybe less uncomfortable?

 

Wow I feel motivated now. Everytime I get an urge im going to think what would have happened 10 years earlier. There is no way anybody masturbated as much as guys do now a days 10 years ago.

 

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Guys, you sound like you're 80 years old and spent all of your lives wanking... Cheer up, 22 years old is just the beginning of life and you've got all the opportunities to change your life! We need more optimism here, someone post some lolcats or something

 

What's really crazy is that the Japanese don't even have sex that much anymore. I wonder how much they are utilizing porn. How many potential fapstronauts would we get from there.

 

Sometimes I also wish I were born in an earlier decade, but actually this has nothing to do with my addiction, It's because I'm a big fan of the 90s and the early 2000s (the time before 9/11).

There were lots of things in the 90s (especially in music) that it would have been great to be part of: Grunge hype, the punk revival, Brit Pop, the Eurodance hype, upcomming crossover rock, the Sydney Olympic Games, Millennium, etc...

But I also don't want to miss my smartphone, the ability to constantly know what's going on in the world. I'm a "digital native".

Whatever, It has nothing to do with my addiction.

 

I'm so grateful to be a part of a movement like this and to have you guys walking on the same path as me. TOTALLY random but that you and keep up the great work!