woman tell me i am boring...

I don't think you should care.... trying to please a girl by trying to be what she wants will not attract them. You need to be authentic and find someone who thinks you are interesting by being who you are. Otherwise, you will fall into a relationship where you will be always trying to be someone that you are not.

But..... they like bad boy traits
 
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I have a book recommendation: How to win friends and influence people. People saying "just be yourself" are right of course but you need to be the best version of yourself. Be honest without oversharing. Be attentive. Find your natural voice. I recommend reading a lot of books. Knowledge and life skills makes you more interesting.
 
Prophet Harry said:
A toxic guy seems interesting to them.

Girls don't like nice men, they like toxicity.
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This is a limiting belief, an excuse to not talk with women. Its a generalisation based in an inaccurate view on women.

Edit: Read "no more Mr nice guy" by Robert Glover. Being a nice guy doesnt attract women. But the opposite: being an asshole isnt the solution neither. With understanding of the female mind, you will know why nice guys finish last. Please look up dr. Glover on youtube or read his books.
 
IMHO boring people are the only people to tell other people that they are boring.

Interesting people support other people and make them grow.

Don't try to be interesting!! Please don't.

Live this amazing gift called life... Feel every moment to the deepest... and lovingly give a FUCK about what other people think or say (including me and what I say ;))
 
next time someone tells you that, pour a jug of milk over your head and start screaming obscenities. or else, paint yourself yellow, run around and call yourself Banana Man!
 
Ninjutsu Jukai said:
What is an interesting guy?
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Have you ever tried asking her? What’s interesting to her? What does she like what is her favorite thing?

Make her the center of the attention.
Make the conversation about her.

it’s like in sales when you’re trying to sell someone something the big thing is you wanna make sure that they feel that they heard and they feel like they’re being validated. You wanna make the sale about them But most of all you wanna treat them with respect.

And the big thing with women is don’t offer them solutions because they don’t want them unless they specifically ask.
They just want you to listen.
as far as being interesting go out and do things, find things you’re passionate and interested about. Get a dog, it shows you can take care of something small and cute or go volunteer somewhere show that you’re not a selfish human being.

that would be my advice.
 
Ninjutsu Jukai said:
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My 2c: women like drama. They like to experience conflict sometimes. That doesn't necessarily have to be toxic.
Just have things you care about and are involved in beyond just your opinions about online things.
Easier said than done in this online world
 
tawwab1 said:
My 2c: women like drama. They like to experience conflict sometimes. That doesn't necessarily have to be toxic.
Just have things you care about and are involved in beyond just your opinions about online things.
Easier said than done in this online world
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i don’t think this is it, I’m not sure where this idea has come from on this forum where guys believe women like drama.

provide examples or experiences you have encountered to back what you are saying. I have never had this experience before where women needed drama in their life to be with me.
 
Just be yourself and improve yourself for you, not women. I've had people say I'm interesting and some say I'm boring. If we lived off of other people's opinions of us we'd go crazy trying to please everyone. Get a vision for your life, and walk it out. The people that share that vision or that would like to be a part of your journey will come along naturally
 
Keepitsimple1989 said:
provide examples or experiences you have encountered to back what you are saying. I have never had this experience before where women needed drama in their life to be with me.
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I didn't say they need drama, I said they LIKE it.
My wife literally told me she wants to see me punch someone one day XD.
She was half-joking, but the other half of half-joking is serious.
 
An interesting guy is someone who can make her laugh and doesn’t show all his cards at once. Pick up a couple interesting hobbies. Such as martial arts, archery, motorcycling, canoeing, etc. Having something in your life that you’re passionate about will help you draw her in. Getting into shape is also a must IMO. Taking care of your body will instantly give you an edge on other men.
 
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tawwab1 said:
I didn't say they need drama, I said they LIKE it.
My wife literally told me she wants to see me punch someone one day XD.
She was half-joking, but the other half of half-joking is serious.
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that sounds like a one off. Every woman I have been with has never once indicated they like drama.

if we are talking about protection, the. Yes women like to know the guy they are with will protect them.

again, not sure where this idea comes from, every woman I have ever been with has never indicated or shown they like drama.
 
Z0RN92 said:
An interesting guy is someone who can make her laugh and doesn’t show all his cards at once. Pick up a couple interesting hobbies. Such as martial arts, archery, motorcycling, canoeing, etc. Having something in your life that you’re passionate about will help you draw her in. Getting into shape is also a must IMO. Taking care of your body will instantly give you an edge on other men.
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there really is no secret, just be yourself.

Women like a man who is put together and has his shit sorted.

Simply just means the guy needs to ensure he has ambitions and goals in life and also shows he takes care of himself.

most importantly, it has to be natural. Hobbies should consist of something the guy has an interest in, making sure he has goals and career ambitions, has charm and charisma, a lot of these can be accomplished through life experience.

If a man has no life experience, confidence and self esteem starts to riddle them and women will spot this the moment you interact with them.

just be yourself and do what you enjoy because the person you meet will have similar enjoyments you do.

I also agree with taking care of yourself in regards to going to the gym and personal hygiene, it isn’t the be all and end all but it definitely does help and also builds confidence
 
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