I don't think it's consciously either. Im not interested in getting into a debate of battle of the sexes here. But women test men relentlessly especially during the dating phase looking for the attributes they desire. In general men aren't looking for those same attributes. I think it would only be natural for women to test men after experiencing betrayal. What I find is that it can get easy to "be offended" by these tests instead of accepting them as natural. I think that's what Thor is expressing and he's working through how to change that reaction.