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Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Wilde°, Jun 27, 2021.

  1. Wilde°

    Wilde° Fapstronaut

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    Hello people, I'm currently doing monk mode already at day 200 which is pretty cool -But I'm upset. I just can't handle myself around girls, I've been chatting alot and getting looks - people tell me I'm a good looking guy. But the problem is, after alot of streaks I still get horny alot of times. I was in a smaller city with around 10,000 people (there was no hot girls there so it was much easier). Ever since I moved to a bigger city (280,000 people) the difficulty became much harder, my mind keep tricking me into relapse when I look at girls so I mostly avoid even looking at them, today I looked at a hot girl in the street by mistake and it gave me such a strong urge (she was a bit exposed) I looked once again to try and focus on the woman's face instead of getting arousal (some sort of practice I'm doing looking at woman faces instead of you know..) but I have this horniness I don't know how to get rid off, so must of the time I just avoid looking at girls or even trying to make a conversation because I automatically turn horny.. which results in me being shy as hell How the hell do I deal with it? I've gained enough experience in nofap, and Ive abstained so many times but this doesn't seem to be resolved. I mean I had a dream where I kissed a girl, which turns out it was a wet dream because I jizzed my pants, what's gonna happen when I'll be in a relationship, will I jizz my pants by kissing or holding hands? I'm so sensitive to these..

    Would love to hear opinions, another question I hope that when looking at that hot woman it wasn't called edging because it was all about practice of not getting arousal, I'm actually very stressed by that and can't sleep because I don't know whether it's edging or not (I'm hypochondriac when it comes to nofap - especially at 200 days, it wasn't the intention)

    You're more then welcome to share your opinion.
     
  2. Dioplleo_547

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    I have similar issues brother, Now I am on day 40 I find lots of women attractive, especially fatter women, well actually I have found fatter women attractive since I was 9 years old but I feel ashamed about it since I've recently started getting obsessed with the Idea of being with one in all honesty and started awkward conversations that didn't end to well on this website, but in real-life I have had 0 experience with real women, but I'm starting to think that monk mode seems like the easiest choice for me because that is the path I am going down now, I've recently been attending Catholic church services, Reading the Bible, Praying, but even despite all that I still end up fantasizing about bigger women, But if I am being honest I only have myself to blame for these urges. I ask for advice about dating fatter women but when I get a response I end up overthinking it and keep explaining why that idea would not work. Every time I see a woman that is heavier than I am I get very aroused. I just want to stop being/feeling like a massive creep, but I am hoping you can talk to me because the guy I used to talk to ended up blocking me, but then again, It was kinda my fault I should just try to keep my sex/dating life off of NoFap.
     
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  3. Sinbad

    Sinbad Fapstronaut

    In the context of pmo, the term "edging" is used to describe m without o
    https://nofap.com/glossary/
    So don't worry your doing fine
     
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  4. MindfulWarrior

    MindfulWarrior Fapstronaut

    What's wrong with liking bigger women? I don't get it?
     
  5. Wilde°

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    You're not a creep for liking fat woman because this is what attracts you it's like saying a gay person he is a creep because he is a male attracted to male but that's how the nature is so don't blame yourself for that lol (although some of the people consider homosexuality weird but whatever that's false) not everybody is attracted to the same.

    Our problem is, or my problem at least is that I can't get off thoughts about woman and sexual thoughts too. No matter how long i'd go without PMO which is really frustrating. I haven't thought about becoming religious though (I'm Jewish).
     
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  6. MindfulWarrior

    MindfulWarrior Fapstronaut

    You can't have an erection or can't climax?
     
  7. Wilde°

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    Haven't had erection in so much time, my libido is not that high because of semen retention and no sex life.
     
  8. MindfulWarrior

    MindfulWarrior Fapstronaut

    Mmh, strange.
    Did you have erections before when you used to PMO though? Without porn?
     
  9. Wilde°

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    I only PMO'ed without porn about one or two times but I did have boners when I used to PMO. It actually makes sense since I've been told that in semen retention the libido is low due to not performing any sexual activity..
     
  10. Hero25

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    Try to move all these energy that you gain when you look up a girl to the heart, and try to see her with more dignity. An separate arousal isn't edging.
     
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  11. Hero25

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    But it's exactly when you do SR and no pmo that your libido is very high and you are getting arousal easier and being more sensible.
     
  12. MindfulWarrior

    MindfulWarrior Fapstronaut

    Some say you need to rewire it to real sex by having real sex but it sounds strange to me that you wouldn't be able to have erections after this long still. Maybe you need more time or maybe you'll be fine once you have sex regularly with a woman, I don't know.
     
  13. Wilde°

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    I'm really getting arousal easier now, and much more sensitive. After 100days like most of us experience it just goes on autopilot, but I'm on 200 now and this is the point I've failed before. The urges are attacking really hard and I just try to look away whenever I see any girls, it's hell..

    Im so horny all the time which makes me upset
     
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  14. Sinbad

    Sinbad Fapstronaut

    Wouldn't you like to have a girlfriend? Or what is your goal exactly?

    I think you should go meet people. No need to look away. Talk to them. Have genuine human connections, unrelated to sex and who knows... Make some friends

    Well, it takes practice. So keep trying. Things will get better and... Try to have some fun. Have a good time
     

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