Please don't use my age to disregard everything I've said. In fact, I already knew that South Africa has a high rate of violence against women (and men for that matter, especially in prisons). Also, I agree that men shouldn't talk to women in an abusive way but women shouldn't talk to men that way either (it happens way more often than you think).I also see that what he said to you could have been meant in a jokingly manner (I already know you don't understand this but I do.) Although he should've got to know you better before he said it, but again, he has learned this now and I don't see a reason to hold a grudge. I understand more than you think and more importantly, I understand him. It doesn't look like you do. And just because you're older than me doesn't mean you have more understanding about Gingko than me. If you still don't understand why he said what he said to you, I'd be happy to explain it to you in a more comprehensive way. I just need to know you will be reading my explanation with an open-minded perspective. Sorry, if I'm being condescending in any way, I just wish to explain and clarify.