I’ve been no PMO for 61 days now. I’m actually pretty proud of myself. I feel like I’ve gotten passed the urges and have my triggers under control. I now want to go deeper in fixing my relationship with my wife. If you ask her, there is nothing wrong and we have a great relationship, which I would tend to agree with, but for me, I need to get passed the thought that having sex means we are good. I’m putting sex with my wife as the number one indicator that we our marriage is great. I guess what I mean is that, my wife wanting to have sex with me, means that she loves me and that our marriage is great. I need to stop putting that much importance on sex and somehow put more importance on a deeper connection with my wife. Yesterday was a good start. In the past, if we had a day without the kids, all I would think about was having sex and I would get upset/mad because she didn’t desire me as much as I did her, or she didn’t think about sex at all, which would lead me to doubting her love for me and/or start to think something was wrong with me or our relationship. It would ruin the time we had together. But yesterday was different. I still wanted to have sex, but I didn’t let the fact that she had other plans for our day get me down. I went with the flow and just enjoyed our time. Which was a huge step for me. I guess I’m looking for some encouragement that this is normal and will get better. I’d also love to hear some success stories where the intimacy in a marriage came back after P use had stopped. This forum has been great and I appreciate everyone who takes the time to read posts and tell their own story.