I've been married almost 40 yrs, and had developed the PMO habit even before we were married. She does not know any of this. It has gotten to the point where we do not have sex and haven't for a number of yrs. Three weeks ago I decide Enough is Enough, I don't want porn in my life anymore. I do not know if I should tell her at this point. I really feel like this will result in our divorce. Is it possible to go through detox, and get into counseling before giving her the worst news of our 40 yrs together? I am arranging for a therapist this week. I don't know what to do.