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Explain further. That was too vague to understand anything.

 

would love to help, but i dont really have much to go off. Are you saying you are in a flatline and struggling?

 

Looks like you are 5 days in. This is your new lifestyle. This is the new you. Dont count the days. When someone starts to lift weights, their mindset isnt "im going to workout for a year, gain sum muscle, and than lose all their gains due to stopping after the year." You will experience ups and downs. Suffer now, enjoy the benefits later. Nothing worth having is attainable without taking risks nor sacrificing. Good luck.

 

PMO is very damaging. You will need many months to fully recover.

 

I feel your pain.

the timings are totally down to you, no one can say after x days you will be cured. You need to fill your life with fun and fulfilling activities, read, exercise, meditate.

Just doing nofap will not on it’s own chance you, you need to use your new found energy to do amazing things.

Really pay attention to you, this time of social distancing is a great excuse to do this, see exactly what you are feeling on a given moment, if you decide to give into an urge, really pay attention to what goes on both physically and mentally, it may give you some insight into your habit.

 

You will have to find by yourself because it depends on each person. You can read journals and success stories on this site if you want to get an idea.

 

First of all, it is clear to me that you are stuck in a cycle of feeling bad/down and relapsing to make yourself feel better. I understand the feeling of never thinking you will be free of this addiction. The thing you have to remember is you are not alone in this and there are others who have gone through similar in this journey. A big part of this is your attitude going in. I see big red flags as to why you keep stumbling and your victim mentality and anger towards the world is what can cause massive problems for yourself. I would advise working on how you view the world as a start. Unfortunately there is no point in saying 'why me'. There is no point in being angry at yourself or others. What you can do now is focus on your recovery.

What you are describing now is probably a flatline and with it can come mood swings, depression, loss of libido etc. Ive been going through a flatline for 7 and a half months now so believe me, you have not got it the worst (230+ days pmo free).

Quit blaming others and the world around you and start asking what you can do to improve your live and your views. No one is out to get you my friend and we all need some help in one way or another.

 

Sorry, man. But I cannot help but get the impression that you need to get some priorities straight. Like, what do you feel is your first priority at the moment? What can you do to help yourself get there? I see a lot of blame for others in your posts. And, like @Ezpz stated - no one is out to get you.

 

I can see that you are really good at writing. You really are.
Btw, Do you have any friends? Family members? Hang out with them if you feel depressed. Lonely make things worse than they really are
Sometimes, we dont need an answer for the meaning of life. Just do it. Often, i find me in situation like you, i dont know if it is the right choice. But i find that even i dont get the intense level of pleasure as i used to have with P, i find PEACE! i know some people that are, i can say, mediocre-not rich, single, no smart; but they seem to be happy or at least satisfied with their life. Not because they are philosophers, just because they dont PMO (i know because i am living with them, btw not my family).
This advice is what I give to anyone, check out youtube channel: The school of life. They have tons of videos and some may suit you.
And do whatever you want instead of P (not something illegal :v ). I think that you have other pastime right.l? Travel or movies, whatever
Hope it helps

 

No one here wants to bring you down, okay? I believe you actually expected answers such as this and the above because it is clear you are no dummy.
Churchill said something like this (I may have this wrong): "Never waste a good crisis."
So, it is easy for me to say you need to use your great energy to turn this around, but I really believe it. I do not believe it will be slow or easy, but I honestly believe it.
We are all flawed. Let's not pretend one regular guy is more flawed than the next guy.
No, I wouldn't worry too much about the porn now. Maybe this isn't the time to try a full stop.
I won't reach out again if you don't want me to, that's your right. But when all is said and done your disgust & anger is not helping you. You honestly just seem tired and bitter at the moment. Maybe forget about the terrible world for a bit and think about what you can do for yourself.
Again, not looking to bring you down here. Not looking to insult you or anger you. Cheers.

 

You are right in saying that the world can be wrong and it can be unfair and hard. I am right there with you on that one. But the world can also be a beautiful place and we can all work together to do our part in improving it. Just remember the many people in struggling countries that don't even have access to clean drinking water. Sometimes we just have to make the best out of a shitty situation.

We are not out to get you my friend because frankly, i dont have the time. Im here on this forum to support others and to learn from others. You are not a bad guy, you are just in a bad place. No matter where we are in our journey in life we can always improve. I have been on this journey for over 3 years now and i have been addicted for a further 7 beyond that. I have hit rock bottom multiple times and i am telling you that holding that bitterness towards others only makes your situation worse and will inevitably lead you down the rabbit hole further.

 

I understand the way you are feeling. All of those “pleasures” you mentioned don’t give true pleasure. They are vices, and ya you have to avoid them to feel and be your best. Anything worth having requires sacrifice. And 40 days is not nearly enough time. No where near enough. I’m not sure how long you have been pmo, but yes day 80 is a big difference from day 40. But it’s going to take longer than that as well. For me, things only started to look up after about 4 months, that’s 120 days. And then in total cumulative, about over 1 year of nofap. You have to persevere

There’s a huge huge difference btwn 40 days and 150 days for instance. The time line people say is sadly not really true. They say after 90 days, everything will be better. It’s more like after around 120 days, you will start getting better, and the progress goes up and up and after more like 300 days then you will be feeling awesome. But the time line is different for everyone depending on how much you abused yourself in the past

“Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial because having stood the test he will receive the crown of life the Lord has promised to those who love him”. You must endure, no matter what it takes

Yes you must have self control and not watch porn or masturbate ever again. And once you do that, you can get married and have sex. But until then, the only answer is self control. I know it seems painful and impossible but you will be rewarded. Yes if you abstain long enough..

your social skills will come back and you will be able to be yourself. Yes you can reach max potential

No one knows how long you will flatline but expect it to come and go in waves and gradually get less and less. For me flatline happens some weeks and other weeks goes away. For example days 40-50 i had flatline. Then i felt fine, then days 70-85 i had flatline then felt great after.

How do i know this? I’ve experienced myself multiple 90+ day streaks

 

It’s not too late. It’s not over for you. your profile says you are 31. Look at @Angus McGyver profile. He is around your age and he is definite proof he’s not too late. If you can turn around your life and change like him, you can change your entire life and start over

 

Of course it is not too late!! It is indeed never too late unless you say so yourself!
It only is too late for those who actually believe so, accept that faith and decide to give up on life alltogether.
But I'm not going to lie since it is a quite gradual process that require perseverance, effort and belief over time but the rewards are huge. It took me over one year, just to get myself out of the worst dread, gloom and misery (the year when I didn't P but MO:ed) and another 13-14 months of NoFap-hardmode before I started to really get over the remaining underlying anxiety, neediness and emptiness that 14-15 years of PMO had left me with.

 

a better man in every way

 

did you become an alcoholic? Tell me about your past and what you are bitter about exactly