would you confess everything to your partner

In my opinion, it depends on the type of relationship you have with the other person. If based on mutual trust and respect, it can help, on the contrary in an unhealthy and disrespectful relationship I would say no.

Helping for me does not mean solving, but understanding the situation and the problem with encouragement, the rest is up to us.

 

It comes down to trust. If you really trust each others then you should not be afraid of sharing. If you haven't arrived at that point yet, wait. I would share anything with my partner given that I had one lol. But my kind of relationships needs to be built on strong trust and openness or it wont work. I have friends, open relationships, everything really. If you are going to live like me then be open but dont over share if you know what I mean. There needs to be a dynamic interaction where you share some of your secrets and she shares a little. If there is a mismatch you will feel bad for sharing.

 

It depends. You dont just throw out a lot of personal information to randoms. It depends on what type of relationship it is and how deep your mutual trust level is. If it is not a serious relationship then sharing can probably be a bad thing. If it is wife material then you should share eventually. You dont have to but if it feels natural you should definitely do it.

If you cant talk about everything with a girl then I suspect it is not the right girl to be in a serious relationship with.

 

Hi,

My goal would be to move toward sharing everything, but not right away. I'm not even comfortable sharing sharing all within recovery communities and groups. The trust is not built yet. A part of me wants to open up in the streets and let everything out. That seems not to be the way. Gradually I'll gain the confidence and mental strength to be public. This will require leaning on the support of many people, one of which will be my partner.

 

idk, ud be surprised. we all struggle with sex urges one way or another. is it such a mind shocker that someone falls into the pmo pit? society likes to flaunt it but when it comes to open discussion we cant handle. its hypocritical bs. i say go easy. maybe bring up a soft addiction to see were their at and how they react. in an ideal situation they would relate and understand that we all have addictions and it should bring u too closer but u never know and i would never tell u to go for it but just test the waters a bit.

 

Share just a little and see how she reacts.

 

While it may be helpful for you to share, it could be destructive towards your partner. I’d recommend seeing a therapist or counselor. That person may be able to help you decide whether or not to reveal your mistakes and how to do so in a safe environment.

 

I understand not wanting to be an activist. Going around holding signs, doing talk shows, awareness walks, etc. are not my thing. It's more along the lines of openly speaking in public in casual conversation when I deem it necessary. At the very least be openly comfortable about having been caught up in porn in the past.

 

there's no right answer, doing so or not doing so could be equally worse for the relationship, nobody knows your relationship or your partner so nobody can answer.

 

what ever you choose to do, ask yourself where is it coming from and if you were your partner where would you think its coming from. like did it come from selfish reasons or did you do it for both of you etc.

 

I don't get why people always want to talk about the past. You can't change it anyway. Don't let these things bother you. But be responsible. Get checked for STDs.

 

The way I see it is talking about the past is about processing and letting go of the past so a person can forgive and move forward.

 

This makes sense, but a girlfriend and especially a new girlfriend is not the right person to have this talk with. A good friend, a therapist or this forum here are much better places.

 

This also makes sense.

 

No never, there are things that are just between God and me!