I would totally date a guy who's addict cause I would know he could understand my struggle with SPMO
People that have issues is confortable dating people that also have issues. If you found a guy that is ok dating an addict like you, he is probably also going to have his own issues.
what if you weren't an addict and this girl (your crush) tells you about her addiction..
A guy that have his shit together is not going to put up with the issues of another person. he is going to date a woman that also have his shit together, it is just a better way to spend his time. he has done his job to be in a good place, he can date woman that are also in a good place that are a lot more healthy and fun to date.
Would you dare to stay with her knowing all that this decision entails? Just to mention: therapy, couple therapy, possible relapses..
Only guys that don't have their shit together will put up with all this crap. But they will bring their own crap to the relationship too. So.. instead of sharing their happines, you are both going to share their crap, that is not a good foundation for a relationship.
I'm not talking about a hookup, I'm talking about a serious relationship..
Guys that have his shit together will definitevely hookup with a woman with addictions, but will bounce when she ask for something more serious.
I'm afraid of saying the truth to this awesome guy I met years ago and tbh I'm afraid of gettting a broken heart..
Keep this to yourself, work to solve it and move on. Don't share this with your partner in hopes he accept it so you are realive from the job of getting it fix. Instead work to get your shit together for you... for the rest of your life.
When I was a guy with issues, i was willing to date crazy, toxic, narssicistics woman. Just because I was confortable dating people that also have issues, i didn't have my shit together so i was able to put up with this crap just to be in a relationship. All the woman that have their shit together dump me after a couple of months because they figured out that I didn't.
Once I got my shit together, after years of work in myself, i was no longer willing to date a damaged girl. I really started to choose whom I was going to date and my dating experiences get a lot better. Dating healthy woman that have their shit together is just better.. so Im not willing to date a damaged girl anymore, hookup of course but nothing more.
On another side, is not always about the addiction. You can have your own addiction but threat your partener like a king and he is not going to care about your addiction. At the end of the day is about to share happy moments, if dating a woman mean to figth, to argue to go to therapy, to beg for sex, etc... then is going to be a pain in the ass and I would definitevely will look for another option.
Again.. get your shit together and you will enjoy dating guys that also have their shit together. If not, then you are probably going to date demaged guys that are going to bring their own baggage to the relationship. it's your choice.