Wrestling fetish

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by seagulls6878, Mar 25, 2019.

  1. seagulls6878

    seagulls6878 Fapstronaut

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    I have a fetish of wrestling girls in bikinis ... this is my main thing I watch not really porn although it is sexual in nature. I often pay “session wrestlers” to do this for me . I am hoping that nofap will get me back to a point where I get turned on from having normal sex with a girl
     
  2. Is this something that developed before or after porn addiction?
     
  3. seagulls6878

    seagulls6878 Fapstronaut

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    Before it’s always been there ... developed as a child .... I’m 27 now and have erectile dysfunction today’s day 1 with no masturbation and no videos. Just want my life back . Wants normal healthy relationship and a family one day ... things seem very bleak wanna be normal so bad and love someone
     
  4. seagulls6878

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    I’ve never talked about this with another human being before
     
  5. Infrasapiens

    Infrasapiens Fapstronaut

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    Well, I do not think it is that weird or uncommon. Physical contact with a women in those conditions would arouse most heterosexual men.
     
  6. seagulls6878

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    Yeah I’m just trying to get well it’s day 2 of hard mode ... I had a sexual dream last night no orgasm and I still wake up with a semi which I’m not gonna lie I don’t try and make go away but I didn’t masturbate. Really trying to throw myself into this community so I can get well this time need a support group
     
  7. IGY

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    This is a porn substitute (p/sub) and still stimulates the very same neurotransmitter - dopamine. Is this the only thing that can get you hard or you can get erect for? Be sure to eliminate all arousing material and stop masturbating as well. Click on my tracker and set up your own.
     
  8. seagulls6878

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    Lately nothing can get me hard not even that. I should have worked on this when I woke up at 21 and realized I couldn’t get hard or turned on anymrow but i kept feeding the disease. If I masturbate I will orgasm either semi or just soft. I’ve been lying to myself till my friend told me if I don’t get better and work on this ill always be alone and never have a family.wanna leave the porn and sex workers behind
     
  9. Joe92

    Joe92 Fapstronaut

    I suggest you to meet a psychologist or a sexologist, added to your porn abstinence. I advise that because you said you have this fetish since childhood, so I don't think porn is the only thing that plays a role.

    It is not even a shameful fantasy, as can be those of humiliation etc. So I think it may help you to talk about it to understand what that is all about and free yourself from the power it has on you.
     
  10. seagulls6878

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    Yes I need to do that ... I just feel like so such a weirdo... this is my last hope to live a normal life. I know it’s not as bad as being humiliated or beaten or sissyfied or whatever . This one I think more people can understand . Still I want a life of normalcy
     
  11. fapequalsdeath

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    hmm, it's so interesting how different fetishes can be. some are porn induced, others not, and some are enhanced by porn. there seems to be a boundry tho, the ones that hburt you and the ones that don't either psychologically or physically. A boundary, that shouldn't be crossed easily.
     
  12. seagulls6878

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    Yes well I think it may have stunted me it’s not like I like to get kicked in the balls or anything like that
     
  13. Joe92

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    Man I feel you carry way too much shame for what it is and you may be surprised how the professional will answer you with 0 judgment. You don't know how common are weird fantasies among the population. Yours seems more amusing than ridicule, and even if it is not a fetish for me, I think this situation is a turn on for 99% of heterosexual men
     
  14. seagulls6878

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    I feel you man. I mean I know a lot of the population have fetishes. That’s what a lot of providers tell me. It’s just something that is done in the closet. I just think the weird part of it is hiring and paying a women to carry out this fetish with you. I mean one provider told me who wouldn’t wrestle a girl in a bikini. That may be true but most people aren’t gonna pay for it or seek it out. I didn’t tell my doctor about it but he suspects too many sexual videos is the culprit . They check my test levels and my sex hormone levels as well as dopamine
     
  15. Vandermeer

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    What if I have a fetish for wrestling with married guys in singlets? Asking for a friend...
     
  16. Joe92

    Joe92 Fapstronaut

    That is why I insist. I think what gives so much power to your fantasy is the shame and guilt you impose yourself by keeping it secret.
     
  17. seagulls6878

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    Well yeah but it’s considered taboo. Outside of that I live a normal life with normal friends . Idc who you are eveyone wants to be liked and accepted no one wants to think of them selfs as a freak or different or an outsider I don’t know if this helps but I hve clinical anxiety and depression as well
     
  18. Joe92

    Joe92 Fapstronaut

    I'm trying to help you, nothing more. I don't tell you to go in the streets and tell everybody about it. I just tell that if you think this is an issue for you, which seems so, you should talk about this where issues about oneself are discussed in privacy and professionalism : at the doctor, psychologist, sexologist.

    Good luck
     
  19. seagulls6878

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    I appreciate you talking to me ... I’ve been off work for 5 days pinched a nerve in my back I go back tomororow .. it’s just been me home alone but I haven’t looked at any sexual material I appreciate you trying to help
     
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  20. seagulls6878

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    Have you seen a sex therapist before
     

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