Wtf!

Talking to a cute girl I met online.
The conversation was going well..it was later at night and she said she would message me in the morning. She did..we chatted off and on all day.
She phoned me and we talked for a bit and she asked me if I
wanted her to bring me a coffee at work.
I messaged her later. She responded a bit.
Then the convo dropped off a bit..fine it was late.
I messaged her his morning we chatted a bit - I asked her to go out this week..... No response. And she normally responds within 5-10 minutes.
It's been a couple hours.
I'm open to all your guys comments please and thank you.

 

Unfortunately, and at other time fortunately, I tend to read into things and it can drive you nuts lol.
If I never spoke to her again? Nothing. I suppose I would find someone else to talk to. She just seemed like a nice girl and i hate getting my hopes up for nothing.
Unfortunately, I broke a rule. I got a girls number at a bar once. We had a great chat. I messaged her once! And it was literally 30 minutes after we met simply saying great meeting you again have a good night. Something like that. Never said anything again. I get a message maybe a week later saying she was out of town last night and coming into the city today. Asking if Id like to have drinks. The date ended as any male would hope.

Unfortuneatly by being overenthusiastic with this new girl... She might have lost interest.

For those seinfeld fans out there, does "the opposite" episode come to mind?

 

How do you mean?

 

Are you referring to the girl in my above post?

She wasn't an online date. I met her at a bar. Like, I was there she was there and we started talking. Then it went from there
I do much better when I meet women offline.
I'm trying to master the art and ups/downs of online dating. I hate it with a passion..but I need to learn it.

 

Well damn!! Haha ok so give me the advice meant for me now lolol

 

Damn boy! Well said!

Here's the part that I personally struggle with.

Let's say I message 10 girls. 2-3 respond. 1 of them is actually really cool, things seem to be going well then she stops or she starts cutting back her messages further and further until you're out.

It's one of those things where its tiring to get alot of nos, you finally think it's going somewhere then it comes crashing down. That's the part that gets to me. So I'm trying to learn how to not let it bother me and how to make that less likely to happen

 

Haha I don't mind douchey advice. The one and only time I tried grabbing a broad by the pussy she fucked me senseless and kept telling me "I love how forward you are" lololol
And really the douchier the advice the better it seems to work.
Talking to someone you've never met online and someone in real life are two totally different strategies. It seems.tk be successful online you need to build lots of fear of loss and anxiety with her or she could care less

 

So did you ever hear back from her? I've done a bit of online dating and sometimes when you pop the question, they try to play it cool and delay their response. But it's also possible that someone else swooped in and stole her. I've been ghosted a few times and figured that she probably just became interested in another guy. Tons of competition out there so you gotta move quick.

 

Not yet man. Apparently dating sites can be up to 7:1 men:women... So yeah the competition is tough. Based on the fact that she offered to bring me coffee at work and rapport we had going I figured my odds are pretty good... That's the thing though. Sometimes they can go sideways on you real fast. No matter how many times it happens it always surprises me when it does

 

Ouch! That sucks. I'm surprised too because it sounds like she was really into you for awhile there. I get what you mean though...I'm always uneasy when I'm messaging with an attractive women because it's often only a matter of time before she disappears. I guess it's that whole 7:1 ratio. The odds are stacked against us.

 

Yeah meanwhile if I start chatting up a girl at the bar she usually leaves with me so figure that one out. I was trying to get away from.too.much alcohol so I wanted to focus on this but it's really degrading to men this whole online stuff -

it's very similar to porno. It's an obsession . If I'm sitting at a bar or pool hall or whatever having a good time and I happen to meet someone that's a good time. But sitting around sending emails? Fuck that that's not much different then living on pornhub

 

Yeah I suppose it can be addicting, best not to get too caught up in it. Just play around with it time to time and if something good comes along then great. I do miss the bar scene myself. The days when women often approached you first. Kinda figured the online scene would be a walk in the park. Boy was I in for a rude awakening. Now it's tough to even score a date with an average girl.

 

Tell me about it soul sister!

Girls that are 6-7 so you know... 3-4 beers lmao get 30 messaged an hour from guys that are normally way out of their league lol.
I look at the girls that I've dated and I look at the ones Italk to online and I'm going damn I get wayy better looking girls than this in reality