Here's a very important topic which I think people should pay more attention to: your ego. Have you ever been one of those people who goes to a place and just has an awful perspective on everybody who seems happy? Have you ever despised other people feeling that they have the happiness and the fun you don't? Have you ever found yourself so strange in the world and you can't seem to understand what others have that you don't? If you have ever felt this way you're sabotaging yourself and you're hiding in a big ego shell. First things first, understand your ego. Because many times you see people like Eckhart Tolle talk about shattering it away and you come to believe it's a plague from the outer world. No, the exact opposite. You have to understand that your ego is part of you, it's not a bug that someone put into you, it's really your unconscious mind protecting you. Protecting you from what? Being hurt, being sad, being angry, being afraid, being frustrated. Whenever those feelings arrive you don't really realize it but you're unconsciously protecting yourself by denying those feelings. Let me tell you a little story about me. When I started college this girl appeared in my life and for me it was so weird that a girl I liked actually liked me back, problem is she had a boyfriend. We started seeing each other, talking until 2 am, kissing where nobody could see us. And I felt joy, I felt loved, it was a great feeling, and whenever we have that our mind creates in your imagination a perfect world in which you're going to feel like that forever and where that situation that brought you joy is going to keep being there for a while. But then reality hit me, hard. She wouldn't leave her boyfriend because they were basically too codependent, but I kept hanging on to this fantasy in which she would leave him and come to me. Finally what happened is I gave her an ultimatum, I told her it's him or me and she didn't really say it but her actions told me it was him. That moment when I realized that was horrible, my whole fantasy was broken down. So then what happened was that I started hating her, lots. I would think of revenge, of making her life miserable, of how she had used me and wouldn't give me what I thought she owed me. I basically felt joy on thinking how her life could be miserable. But then I discovered something. It wasn't her I was really hating, it was me. I was really hurt and I felt so much self hate that my ego would protect me and use that hate towards her. And what I couldn't realize is that I was depriving myself from great things for the future. Also, this wasn't my only bad experience with a girl, so my ego started protecting me from being that hurt again. All that lightheartedness that you need to have great social interactions, especially with women, I didn't have it and all of those past experiences were so hurtful that my ego would just protect me and that's where insted of acting bravely with fear, I always chose not to act when I was afraid, so that kind of things wouldn't happen ever again. And funny enough, for a very shy guy I had a HUGE ego, and I still do, I'm just handling it from a different perspective. So, now that I have exemplified how your ego keeps you from getting out of your comfort zone and getting hurt, I'll give you some tips that hopefully keep you from having those same bad experiences that I had. First, as I said earlier, acknowledge your ego as a part of you. Don't ever blame someone or something else for the way you are. Whenever you feel that you're hating on other people take a moment and listen to yourself. Really listen to you and have this in mind: "This is my ego trying to protect me, because I feel hurt". Now that you've acknowledge that identify why are you hurt and how are you feeling. Dealing with your feelings is the ONLY way in which you can stop being driven by them and instead drive them to a greater future. Let yourself feel scared, sad, angry and frustrated, so then those feelings don't stay inside your mind and eventually feed on the negative side of your experiences. Once you learn how to manage your ego, you'll stop feeling hurt. Always be humble, never be too good for anything, never think something is not good enough for you. You can manage your ego by destroying self hate, and you destroy self hate by having self love. Doesn't matter the situation you're at, things not going as you expect them, you can always count on yourself. To finish this post, here's a very useful advice. Imagine your experiences are apples and they're in a tree. So you grab an apple from the tree and you taste it. If it tasted good (good experiences) put it in your basket (your mind), if it tasted bad (bad experiences) get the good part (knowledge) out of it, put it in your basket and throw the rest away.