your reason for quitting pmo

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by BravelyKegger, Nov 6, 2018.

  1. BravelyKegger

    BravelyKegger Fapstronaut

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    i have been watching porn since i was 12, i did not know how to masturbate so i used a huge stuffed animal i had, and well thats how it all started. Now i am head deep in addiction, my favorite type of porn is definitely futanari, rule34 was my best friend for years, i think the reason for that is ever since i hit puberty i would get turned on from cross dressing and the idea of females having penises, thats just a part of me tho cause i had those desires way before i saw porn. Than i found sissy porn and that is when it ALL went down hill fast. Anyways this thread is to talk about why you personally want to quit and what are your motivations for quitting. For me my motivation is recovery, i hate feeling like a pathetic looser who cant get hard for woman or even look them in the eyes. I have a vision, i fiery red haired woman, i like red heads so i plan on having one when i recover. Also porn is devastating for your mental heath and psychical, i have a favorite comic book series i love its called bone, and trust me i want to re read it sooooo bad, but i told myself that will be one of your rewards for getting healthy. I refuse to read it with this filthy twisted porn mind i have, i want to read it with pure eyes again. Also the resident evil remake i love, i wont play it again until i am better. This is a very effective way i have found for helping me quit, if i ever want to read and play those things again, ill have no choice but to quit. I know my faith in God will help me through this, im sickened by this and even my natural urges i mentioned, i want nothing to do with any of it.
     
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  2. Tryinghardtoquit

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    I want to quit cos I have been doing this for over half my life and now seeing the benefits of not doing it I feel like it is something I wholeheartedly want to pursue
     
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  3. samnf1990

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    My primary motivation is to be fully invested in my loving relationship with my wife, and to bring my behaviour in line with my morals, beliefs and best interests. Porn use is hurtful to her, causes me pain and confusion and is a negative force in my life. The year or so I spent porn free was the best and happiest part of my entire life, and after a period of relapse that I was reluctant to acknowledge, I am again attempting a full and complete removal of P and solo M from my life. Sex is always better than porn, and waiting for sex is always better than the feeling of having betrayed my wife and my self by giving in to urges and seeking a quick and easy fix. My old view of PMO as a victimless non-crime was misguided, wrong and damaging to my relationship and to my attempts to be the best man I possibly can be. My current view of P as a toxic and damaging drug is not compatible with a version of me who PMOs. I don't want to be a pathetic loser, a liar, a hypocrite or somebody who hates themself. I want to be the version of myself that I had pride in, who does not masturbate and makes positive choices that meet his true needs and desires of seeking love, intimacy and reciprocated desire, and not a shallow pursuit of pleasure by fapping in front of damaging material that causes harm to me, to my wife, and to those involved in its production.

    Life is better without porn, and that is the life that I want.

    One thought: just because you typed 'redhead' in a lot of searches, it does not mean that the ideal partner for you will have red hair. Open yourself to your intuitions, and don't approach relationships in the same way that you sought out porn. The perfect lover is the one who most desires you, and most wants to make you happy and meet your needs. They are not the one that ticks the most boxes in your 'preferred attributes' checklist.
     
  4. BravelyKegger

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    thank you for posting, and about the red head thing its not like i just "typed in redhead", everyone has a type and i like redheads. Also im not dead set on a red head girlfriend, its just what i envision to help keep me strong.
     
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  5. because it fried my brain, making everything monotone, shit memory, motivation, energy, ect. I need to reboot my dopaminergic reward system.
     
  6. The_Grand_Nagus

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    My friend, I am here to tell you can absolutely have that redhead.

    It's important to have a clearly defined goal, and with women it's no different. Some men don't care too much what color the girl's hair is. But if you want a redhead, you should own that, there is nothing wrong with it. But you should also figure out what other qualities you want in a woman. Because a sexy redhead that isn't the kind of person that will help you be the kind of person you want to be, will not be good for you in the long run.

    I am glad you are already envisioning your future without porn and some of the goals you have.

    I highly encourage you to check out the book (or audiobook) "How to be a 3% Man" by Corey Wayne. This book taught me a lot of important things about women and relationships that I never knew before (and I never had a hard time getting girls - but I still learned a lot from this book!)

    If you follow the principles in this book, you are practically guaranteed to find the woman you want, when you are ready.

    I hope this post provided some value to you.

    As I mention in all my posts, I am starting a weekly group that will meet virtually to learn the CBT method and be accountability partners for each other. If you're interested, PM me and I'll tell you more.
     
  7. BravelyKegger

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    oh dont worry i already know what i want in a woman, never didnt know haha. I just didnt think i needed to mention all that.
     
  8. Rocky singh

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    Bcas i want to fullfocus on my study ..
    Previous 7 year i wasted all my time in this addiction ant wasting my consciousness ..
    My parents expected me much better but now i am boy doing as they want .....
    Now this time to quiting it and fullfill our desire
     
  9. Mattew

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    My reason?

    Woman, 100%.

    I always had been terrible with girls and woman, almost repelling them. So, at this point, i have to try everything to fix this, even no pmo for the rest of my life.
     

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