Your thoughts of the relationship between learning to dance, touching and relief from loneliness.

Firstly I want to say big big Kudos to you and finding the couarge to step it up in the way you have.

I'e lost a lot of courage over the years, though nor am I lost or out of touch. No way.

So I love the way you have opoened up about this connection. This desire and WANT. For me, it's totally cool and admirable and you're giving me a little courage to step up and try the same.

Thanks TMSPC - long name BTW

Big hugs brother

 

I think dance is one of the best ways to address loneliness.

I've done a few seasons of lessons (about 10 lessons each) and would be back but my schedule doesn't suit it now, hope to go back in a few months though!

It really is a great environment to get small talk, intimate touching without the awkwardness, a few laughs. I distinctly remember leaving lessons with a buzz, rather than "I wish I had a girl", it was more of a content feeling having socialised and been close to women in a natural setting (how long has dance been a part of our society now?)

It's interesting your group gave the option to lead or follow, I wonder if this is part of a social change gender neutral initiative or just a really relaxed class?

Our class was guys leading girls following, and with usually a few extra girls sometimes you would get a pair of girls dancing together.

I imagine if you change for the next class you'll get even more benefit, meeting more women!

 

I think finding something that you enjoy in a group to fight loneliness is an awesome thing to do. Gets you out of the house, around people, and interacting with them. The social aspect of life was something that I think became apparent to everyone with covid lockdowns. I would fully encourage everyone to get out there and find something they enjoy and participate in it. I'm in a regular group fitness class 3 times per week, playing in a softball league, and in a bowling league. I've found being around people again is making me enjoy life and in a better mood.

 

I agree with all of this - getting involved with communities for hobbies and interests you love is I would say the best way to meet women and make friends in general. You're in your element and at your most confident because you're doing something you love, you'll already have at least one common interest with any women you meet which is vital for building connection, and meeting the women in the first place feels so much more natural and free of pressure than, for example, approaching them on the street, because you're chatting while having fun together doing your shared activity. What's more, because clubs and societies are regular you'll be meeting the same girls again and again, meaning you can go at your own pace with regards to building intimacy, escalating touch and gaining understanding of whether she's interested in you or not.

Dancing in particular is a good one because you have to touch her in order to dance in the first place, but in general any pastime you really enjoy doing or really want to start doing is a great way to show the best in you to any girls you meet. I've certainly built some of my strongest relationships with women I've met at hobby clubs.