Hey, what the heck? Seriously? I'm gonna make it easy, because it really is - you have only 2 choices. 1. Be lonely, which is completly your fault 2. Do something about it If you prefer to sit on your ass complaining about how unfair life is, you may as well quit reading. On the other hand, if you want to change your situation I have a handful of tips for you. First of all, being lonely is not the same as being alone. Being lonely is a state of mind. And let me remind you that ultimately you are the master of your mind. Of course there are a lot of things which may influence your thinking, such as as head ache, bad weather or other people's words. But in the end they don't matter. What matters is your perception of those things. Think: Is an insult really an insult, if you don't give a damn about it? The most important step to being happy in life is acknowleding the sentence: 'I'm not important at all. And I'm content about it.' The world owns you nothing. It doesn't own you any friends, money, cars or even food. You're not a special snowflake, a beautiful individual, a very important person. The fate of world is not lying on your shoulders and let's face it - if it was, we all would be fucked. You need to get out of your ass and look from a bigger perspective. Do you really think that in the world THIS big, you mean something? You don't. Neither do I, my dog or my family. And it's good. Seriously, the world tries to make you think that you matter a lot, that you're very important. The truth is, the world doesn't need you. You could enter a bar wearing a suit of white and propose to the first girl you see. Guess what? World will go on and you will have one more funny story to tell. 'Confidence comes with knowing that you don't matter that much and that other people really don't either, women included. So if it's not that big of a deal, what do you have to lose? Nothing. There are no rules for life other than eat, sleep, breathe, and survive. The rest is completely made up. Clothes? Optional. Words? Optional. Bathing? Optional. Dating? Made up. Relationship standards? Fiction. Breeding? Unnecessary. You could wake up tomorrow and pretend you're an African prince who has to drive backwards to work or else the mafia will come and steal your asshole. And that would make only marginally less sense than people driving to the same workplace every day to get money to pay for a piece of the planet they were born on which can be taken away by a group of people in a big building with giant metal rooms full of green paper. So you don't matter that much and life is ridiculous. You couldn't possibly make life any more ridiculous than it already is. So don't go around acting like every little action matters. The common perception is shy people have small egos, but it's really the opposite. Shy people are so concerned with their "image" they present to others, that they act "shy" because of a fear of judgement. It's sad really, because shy people are literally policing themselves on what they can or can't do, based on a made up perception of what others are thinking.' Stop overthinking and start living.