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howtogo · May 31, 2016

yuck is how i feel about internet porn. so its not everyday but when i'm go down that rabbit hole, it is a turn on. but the problem is that i feel CRAPPY afterwards. stupid, cynical, yucked out. so i'm sure it has a negative effect on my life, a ripple effect. And I was thinking that i've been masturbating, sometimes compulsively, since i was a teen and does it contribute to this ongoing struggle with depression and alienation? not that i'm against pleasuring ones self, and not that things are truly terrible for me now. more like, hey, lets look at the connections here to happiness and fulfillment in life. i've been meditating recently and thought maybe this would contribute in another way towards moving myself up to another place.. letting go of negative cycles..
actually i don't want to let go of sex with the one that i love but i think letting go of masturbation and porn would be really good. i'm game to find out, i hope!

Iwannabeme · May 31, 2016

Yes regular use of pornography have a very negative effect on how your brain works. Your neurons fire dopemine the pleasue reward chemical, and when they fire from the use of p, then you become even more reliant on p to feel that rush of dopemine. Basically everything else becomes behind p since it has such a stong effect of dopemine levels and over time it gets stonger. Then after that rush the chemical drops back down giving you that depressed or low feeling, along with that any feelings of guilt or shame make very hard to be around others especially loved ones causeing social isolation. And the cycle repeats. But it is not all bad you can rewire your brain if you stop using p and engage in other activities, over time your dopemine with level out and you will be happier. Good luck!

Christiano · May 31, 2016

Welcome to the community! I'm also new here and to answer your question about whether or not masturbation contributes to your depression, I would say it can very much affect how you feel about yourself. now keep in mind this is my personal opinion on the matter, but for some people masturbating doesn't affect their lives, everyone is different. I am here because masturbation does affect my life negatively and I feel I objectify women too much. I also notice I become more depressed and feel like I'm never going to accomplish anything after doing the deed. I know that there is a correlation between them because of how quitting porn and masturbation has changed aspects of my life which I deem has been a positive change. It has helped me abstain from porn as well as make me feel more energized, optimistic, and even feeling good about myself. Heck I even wake up in the morning now happy to go to work despite the bullshit I deal with! I will note though that I have failed many times and would re-lapse and even binge on masturbation and porn after breaking streaks, but now I am happy to say I'm maintaining much higher streaks with no sign of re-lapsing anytime soon! Again everyone is different, some can quit cold turkey and start achieving high streaks. Others however, must build tolerance and will-power to overcome temptations and urges. Wish you the best of luck!

howtogo · May 31, 2016

Iwannabeme said: ↑

Yes regular use of pornography have a very negative effect on how your brain works. Your neurons fire dopemine the pleasue reward chemical, and when they fire from the use of p, then you become even more reliant on p to feel that rush of dopemine. Basically everything else becomes behind p since it has such a stong effect of dopemine levels and over time it gets stonger. Then after that rush the chemical drops back down giving you that depressed or low feeling, along with that any feelings of guilt or shame make very hard to be around others especially loved ones causeing social isolation. And the cycle repeats. But it is not all bad you can rewire your brain if you stop using p and engage in other activities, over time your dopemine with level out and you will be happier. Good luck!
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Thanks beme. i quit drinking about 10 yrs ago and don't miss it at all, by now. I think it helps to think about the chemical reactions going on, so we can recognize the feeling as it happens. i appreciate the support.

howtogo · May 31, 2016

Christiano said: ↑

Welcome to the community! I'm also new here and to answer your question about whether or not masturbation contributes to your depression, I would say it can very much affect how you feel about yourself. now keep in mind this is my personal opinion on the matter, but for some people masturbating doesn't affect their lives, everyone is different. I am here because masturbation does affect my life negatively and I feel I objectify women too much. I also notice I become more depressed and feel like I'm never going to accomplish anything after doing the deed. I know that there is a correlation between them because of how quitting porn and masturbation has changed aspects of my life which I deem has been a positive change. It has helped me abstain from porn as well as make me feel more energized, optimistic, and even feeling good about myself. Heck I even wake up in the morning now happy to go to work despite the bullshit I deal with! I will note though that I have failed many times and would re-lapse and even binge on masturbation and porn after breaking streaks, but now I am happy to say I'm maintaining much higher streaks with no sign of re-lapsing anytime soon! Again everyone is different, some can quit cold turkey and start achieving high streaks. Others however, must build tolerance and will-power to overcome temptations and urges. Wish you the best of luck!
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yes, the objectification of women is really something. it feels like an intrusion into my ability to just be me and see people as the friendly people they might be. it feels like actually an invasion, this rating how a woman looks. or maybe rating how i am reacting to how she is in the world. i probably am maintaining my composure but it affects me most of all, and in a negative way. i mean, flirting is fine, but i want to choose when to flirt, not the other way around. thanks for your support, christiano.

ILoathePwife · May 31, 2016

Welcome! You are in the right place. There are others here your age!

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